<p>Does anyone have any fears of their future roommates in college? I know that many colleges have a selection process that allows people to choose their preferred "type" of roommate based on habits, music selection, if they're a partier or a studier, etc. I'm an outgoing kid, but I want to have a "cool" roommate. I know we all have different perceptions of "cool" but I want my roommate to be chill, ready to party, smart, and loves sports. I know of many stories where roommates "get along" but aren't "friends." I definitely want to be friends with my roommate.
Your opinions?</p>
<p>The only way to guarantee that you’ll be friends is if you room with someone you’re already friends with and has the personality you want. Going random is a crap shoot. Most people get along with their roommates, but aren’t friends. My roommate this year is really, REALLY different from me, but we get along just fine. We just don’t hang out or anything. I think that’s the case with a lot of people. Even if your college offers those roommate surveys, there’s no guarantee you’re going to get the chill person you want. So unless you hand select who you want, there’s no guarantee, you’ll be friends. </p>
<p>On a side note, most people aren’t friends with their roommates and they do just fine.</p>
<p>I’m the exact opposite. I really hope I get a good roommate, of course, but I hope they don’t come in wanting to be my best friend. I mean, imagine hanging out with your best friend all the time, but then you go home and they’re still there! It’s gotta wear on the relationship a bit. Besides, I couldn’t imagine ever getting anything done if my best friend was always right there!
Also, the kind of people I like to hang out with usually end up being complete opposites from me, so not someone I could get along with living together. (And vice verse!)</p>
<p>That’s just not something you can usually control, unfortunately. It’s all just luck. Usually roommates do get along, though, if they aren’t friends. If you wind up really despising your roommate, however, you can most likely get a room change.</p>
<p>I am best friends with my current roomie! I feel so lucky that it worked out that way! We filled out one of those survey things for our school about living preferences and got each other’s names as possible roomies. She emailed me, I emailed back, and then we started chatting on FB. We decided to request each other in the end. I would strongly recommend doing this just to see if you click with anyone the way I did - if not, just go for chance.</p>
<p>Does anyone have any fears of their future roommates in college? I know that many colleges have a selection process that allows people to choose their preferred “type” of roommate based on habits, music selection, if they’re a partier or a studier, etc. I’m an outgoing kid, but I want to have a “cool” roommate. I know we all have different perceptions of “cool” but I want my roommate to be chill, ready to party, smart, and loves sports. I know of many stories where roommates “get along” but aren’t “friends.” I definitely want to be friends with my roommate.</p>
<h2>Your opinions? ~ BDangle</h2>
<p>You my friend are frat material.</p>
<p>Now go work on your fist pump.</p>
<p>^haha. </p>
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My roommate is probably my best friend (we were matched and we’re rooming again this year). The thing about college is a lot of the time you or your roommate will be doing something outside the room, whether that be classes, ECs, office-hours, or simply hanging out with other people (especially boyfriends/girlfriends). It’s not like you’re with your roommate all day. We’re only in the room awake together for a couple hours every day, and sometimes those hours are productive and other times they are not :). That said, I’d rather “waste” the occasional night spending time with my best friend than not have the luxury/convenience of having one be my roommate. And if I absolutely have to get work done, I can always just go to the library.</p>
<p>Edit inspired by poster below: Yeah I’ve never lived in a single either, but I think this is a better situation (I don’t have a girlfriend though haha, so one big advantage of a single is meaningless for me).</p>
<p>For freshman year it’s definitely the luck of the draw. My freshman roommate and I got along very well and remain good friends. </p>
<p>This year (sophomore year) I’m rooming with my best friend. We have very similar interests, including our major, and by the end of sophomore year we’ll have taken 9-10 classes together. My roommate is very considerate of the usual rooming issues, and we also generally hold each other to pretty high standards. So rather than it being a really distracting living situation it’s actually quite productive; if he starts doing homework for a class we’re in then I feel obligated to join him, and vice-versa. (It’s kind of like having a built-in study partner). </p>
<p>There are definitely times where it’s obvious we’re spending too much time together and things get a bit strained, but they are few and far between. Overall I think it’s the ideal living situation, in my mind even preferable to living alone in a single.</p>
<p>I’m having fun taking in all your different opinions. Mine’s already changed a bit. I totally understand the point of wanting a roommate as a friend, and one as not. I just hope mine leaves my stuff alone, unless it’s something I brought to share. I don’t want him to just randomly decide to use my laptop, for instance, for whatever reason. I also don’t want him to be my best friend, necessarily, but someone I can call on and party with. I REALLY hope they leave the room, too…my friend who goes to Worcester Polytech says his roomie is a huge bore…but that’s an engineering school, after all haha</p>
<p>I was terrified of getting stuck with a roommate that was a study-holic who never left the room and would have no social skills (or a crazy religious if-you-drink-you-go-to-hell type, or a crazy druggie partier who would come into the room constantly wasted with 4 different guys per week). I probably came up with 50 different horrifying scenarios that could occur but fortunately none of them came to fruition. </p>
<p>I ended up to be super lucky - my school doesn’t even have roommate surveys to be matched with and I ended up with a girl who has been essentially my best friend through my third year of college. She is super social, not picky at all, smart but likes to party etc. and we have never argued at all. After rooming together for 2 years in the dorms, we are going to be housemates the following year! </p>
<p>All I can say is, good luck! While the horrible or great roommate stories are generally few and far between, generally you’ll at least be able to tolerate your roommate. If you feel like there is going to be issues with your roommate right off the bat, make sure to address the personal space stuff right at the beginning.</p>
<p>I didn’t know that guys cared about the roommmate thing? Anyways, I’m a current high school senior, and I’m pretty worried about the roommate thing, so I’m glad to read some success stories about roommates.</p>
<p>Haha @naturaldistaster yeah well I don’t want to be stuck with a dink. I want a roomie who isn’t scared to go out and meet new people all the time (and possibly poke some smot here and there)</p>
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Why wouldn’t we? Though I did notice in my dorm last year that girls tended to not get along or become friends as often as the guys.</p>
<p>I’m not in college yet, but one of my good friends is a freshman, and she roomed with a friend (not a best friend, but a friend) from high school, and she hates it. She told me that because they’re friends and they’ve known each other for so long, her roommate doesn’t respect her privacy as much as a random roommate would. Her roommate moved her bed without her permission, stays on Skype for hours playing Magic with her boyfriend, and assumes that my friend will just let her do things because they’ve known each other. She said that next year she’s asking for a random assignment because she hates the arrangement now.</p>
<p>I’m probably in the minority here, but I have two roommates and they are two of my best friends. We get along really, really well, and we hang out together pretty often - not all the time, because we have some other friends, but often. The first week or so was a little awkward, because we more or less tiptoed around each other, and I was really nervous about living in a triple (I’ve heard the horror stories about two roommates clicking and the third feeling left out, etc.). However, it’s been great! We’ll probably try to get a triple next year as well. </p>
<p>I know stories like this are not as common, but I’d like to point out that I went in completely random, so it is possible to get matched up with someone like you (there was a minor survey, but we get along for a lot of reasons other than when we go to bed…haha). Best of luck next year!</p>
<p>@ Senior0991 - I dunno. It’s just a vibe that I get that guys are more flexible with the roommate thing and more able to roll with the punches of having a totally random roommate. And guys seem to be less clique-ish than girls so they have an easier time getting along with each other. So that’s where I got that from.</p>
<p>^It’s like a haircut. If I get a bad one I won’t go crying to my mom like my sister does, but I’d still prefer a good one, and there are a couple things I’ll tell the barber beforehand to try to get that to happen.</p>
<p>If you’re worried about it, you’ll get someone bad, as I did. If you go in with an open mind, you’ll either get someone good or someone not-so-good but still have the maturity to deal with it.</p>
<p>I think as long as I have a roommate that isn’t a sex monkey (meaning she’ll kick me out every night) and as long as she isn’t dirty or too invasive I’ll be ok. My personality is pretty dgaf so I don’t mind most types of people…I just need some privacy and respect. That’s about it. I’d love to be best friends with the roomie…but if it doesn’t happen it’s ok</p>
<p>We’re all ex-monkeys in the evolutionary prospective… right? I don’t think you can get a non ex monkey roommate… but it’s worth a try!</p>