I’m now a sophomore in college and have previously had two roommates from my freshman year, both ending with me presumably the ■■■■■. They were both, especially the first, really messy and nasty and remained so even after mentioning that I had a problem with he mess because i’m what some would consider a “neat freak”. They both ended in a disaster and I no longer speak to either of them.
Fast forward to the present:
So, I have this new roommate and she’s great. She’s nice, clean and a freshman so she’s slightly adjusting to living in a dorm. But, I have a major issue with her hair. I know the normal human sheds 50-100 strands a day, so I do my best to clean up. However, its bothersome to me because her hair strands end up on my side of the room on my carpet and it’s not just a few of them, they come in hoards. It seems like 50% of what hair she sheds ends up on my side of the room, and not that many on hers. I like to somewhat spread out on my carpet so I don’t like rolling around on her hair strands. I feel like she might be brushing or combing her hair while walking around, or she secretly does that on my side of the room because I see no way for her hair strands to be all over my carpet and space of the room, instead of on hers. I don’t want to make a big fuss about it like I have with my former two roommates, but I feel restricted in my own space and its irritating because even when I vacuum the floor, I still manage to find a good 12 strands still hanging around. She’s a foreign student so I in no way want to make her feel uncomfortable in a space that’s her new home until the year is over. But I’ve been just ignoring and cleaning them up for the last 3 weeks and i’m getting irritated. She also doesn’t clean up her hair in the shower, so before I use the shower, I end up having to clean up her balls of hair from the shower walls and floor.
Do I just keep silently cleaning up her hair? Or do I tell her about it? But, my dilemma is what is she gonna do about her hair naturally shedding? I feel like I shouldn’t just “deal with it” and never talk about it, because its my side of the room that plays home for hr hair. What should I say/do?
She may not even be aware of how much hair she is shedding. I would speak with her about cleaning up the bathroom drain and the shower. This might not be something she did at home and isn’t aware of it. I wouldn’t assume that she is deliberately sprinkling hairs on your side of the room. Why don’t you take turns vacuuming the entire room? Then, she would presumably see how much of her hair is ending up on your side. I would also seriously consider getting a single room.
Why would you think that she’s secretly combing her hair on your side of the room? You can ask her to clean her hair out of the tub, but I don’t think you’re going to get very far if you ask her to scour the floor for stray hairs. It seems like you have a problem. It’s already affected your relationship with 2 roommates, so you may want to reconsider before creating an issue with this one.
How do you know all the hairs are hers? Don’t you shed any? Don’t either of you ever have friends over? Do you ever leave the room and set things down – books, bags, jackets – where they could pick up stray hairs? Have you checked her side to make sure none of your hairs are there? The best way to handle this is probably to invest in a better vacuum cleaner or vacuum more often.
I question whether this is a real post. But if it is, OP is clearly not cut out for living with other people. Because if she is truly upset with this, there isn’t a student on that campus who will be an acceptable roommate.
The way the ventilation system is working in your room, or the way the air blows around your room if you are using a fan, her hair ends up on your side of the room. This happens at my own house, too. I always find hair in the same place of the house on the first floor (we have hardwood floors in a ranch style house, just one level)
She isn’t secretly brushing her hair on your side of the room. That is ridiculous.
Casually and calmly ask her to vacuum and clean up her hair in the shower more frequently. If she has a sense of humor you could hold up a strand and say, “hey this is great…if anything ever happens to you I’ll have DNA to give to the cops but boy this is crazy! You’re hair is all over! Would you please vacuum and clean it up in the shower too?” Ask but don’t make a big deal out of it.
It’s a pain but part of living with others. Good luck!
I think that if your biggest complaint is that her hairs are ending up on your side of the room, you should go out and buy her a Roommate of the Year award.
My guess is that you’ve never shared a room before college??
Keep your eye on the big picture… this is NOT a big deal.Vacuum before you lay on the rug, and thank God that this is your biggest roommate issue.
Agree with all the above in terms of be thankful this is what you are “dealing with”.
Just wanted to add that I “shed” a ton at this time of year and then it stops nearly entirely for the remainder of the year, so this may be a very short lived problem.
Her hair is probably breaking, not shedding, but either way I think you are being unreasonable. You seriously think she’s brushing her hair on your side of the room just to get to you? Come on now.
“Roommate, I noticed that this rug seems to collect a lot of hair. Maybe we can take turns vacuuming.”
Find a Dyson or Black & Decker hand-held from the RA’s, and offer to take turns vaccumming up all 12 hairs then get out of the room and find something meaningful to do off or on-campus.
This thread could end up a CC classic.
You can spread out on a rug, not knowing whose feet were where in the past? Just imagine. Hairs are the least of it. I agree with the others to share vacuuming. Make a joke of your preoccupation with this. And if you’re really a clean freak, maybe reconsider the time you spend spread on the rug.
I suspect someone out there has finished his/her homework, but nevertheless, this is too funny to resist. I suggest you collect all that hair and send it to Locks of Love. Find a charitable outlet for your frustration. And try not toupee attention to her abundance of hair.
