<p>So, my roommate and I were good friends last school year, and after having a bad experience with last year's roommate, we decided to room together. It seemed like a good idea at first, but now I'm not too happy with my choice.</p>
<p>I didn't realize this before, but my roommate is VERY religious. Not that I have a problem with that (even though I'm not really that religious myself), but she has very strong protestant beliefs that she likes to shove down my throat, and it makes me uncomfortable when she goes into lengthy discussions about it. Which brings me to my next point....</p>
<p>I have a boyfriend. At the beginning of the year, without me even asking her, she told me that it was "totally fine" if he spent the night with me. It was even on our roommate contract that the RA keeps. Halfway through this year, she changed her mind suddenly, and although I felt a little odd about that (you can't just change your mind on something on the contract halfway through the year), I respected her wishes, and didn't have him spend the night on nights when she was there (she goes home on the weekend a lot), and I did the very best I could to bring him over during times when she wasn't there either (which is very difficult already because she gets out of class at the same exact time that my boyfriend does...and my boyfriend has a 40+ minute commute to school 3 days a week, so it's not like we can just go somewhere else to have "alone time").</p>
<p>I didn't know this until one of my suitemates told me, but apparently my roommate had been talking behind my back for quite some time. She was saying that I "violate her Christian upbringing" (which she totally denied when I confronted her on it by the way) and that she would not allow my boyfriend and I to have any alone time in the room because it violates her Christian beliefs. Um...as far as I know she can't control what I do when she's not in the room. As long as I'm not damaging property or disturbing anyone PRESENT at that time, it doesn't matter what I do.</p>
<p>Things have settled down a bit since then, but I'm still having numerous other problems with her. For one, when I do actually have my boyfriend over at the same time, she gabs at him nonstop (she has ADHD...but I don't think it's an excuse for her excessive talking because I have it too and don't talk nearly as much) when I want to spend time with him.....not listen to the two of them talk, as selfish as that sounds. My boyfriend isn't a huge fan of hers right now either, so it's not like he would be inconvenienced if I asked her to tone it down a bit. Also, my roommate, despite being a complete prude, says inappropriate things in front of my boyfriend like "Oh, sorry if my boobs are popping out" and stuff like that. I'm not annoyed with it in a jealous way, but that's really disrespectful to say in front of someone else's boyfriend. I would NEVER say something like that in front of someone else's boyfriend....ever!!</p>
<p>Also, my roommate just talks WAY too much in general. And it's not a two-way conversation either- it's all about herself. Like I said before, we both have ADHD, but I don't think that's a proper excuse for how much she talks, because I am significantly quieter than she is. She's a music major (so she never has much homework...just has more class time instead), and I'm a chemistry major, so I am always doing more homework than she is. And whenever I try to do homework or grade exams/quizzes (I also have a job as a proctor/grader for a professor here), she thinks it's an okay time to yap at me. Even when I politely tell her that I need to "get back to work now" or that too much noise distracts me, she still comes up with some way to make noise. Either by talking to herself about her homework, or by making random comments. It just never stops! And even when I wear earplugs (which I bought this semester because I just couldn't take her rambling anymore) while doing work, she still finds some way to bother me. It's just so annoying!</p>
<p>She has 8am classes 3x a week, whereas I have 10:40am classes 3x a week (we both have classes every day, but those are our earliest classes), but she always seems to wake me up when she gets ready in the morning. Whether it's having her alarm go off 3 times (starting at like 5:20am, on her desk, but she then climbs back into bed to go to sleep, making the alarm completely pointless) or banging stuff around in the room, or slamming doors, she's been waking me up more often in the past week or so. And I wouldn't consider myself to be a light sleeper, so I'm pretty sure I'm not being hypersensitive about it. </p>
<p>Sorry, this is a lot, but what should I do about this? How should I confront her on some of this stuff? And I can't just switch rooms either.</p>