<p>I'm not going to use this blog to vent, and I'm not going into details, but basically I'm having some roommate issues. We're both miserable and after some incidents we can't even communicate to each other anymore. Anyways, I want some advice from a third person perspective: should I stay and be miserable with my roommate, and switch when the semester is over OR should I avoid conflict and transfer to an opening in a different building (most likely in a community-styled dorm)? Obviously this isn't enough details to make this decision, I just want another outside opinion. My emotions are telling me to move, but my brain is telling me to stay.</p>
<p>I don’t know anything about FSU but when I am unhappy I make changes. I would move and never look back again.</p>
<p>It’s not rare for roommates to have conflicts.</p>
<p>Reflect on what transpired and figure out where you could have improved your efforts and attitude. </p>
<p>See if you can work it out, use university resources if they help.</p>
<p>If all else fails move to another room.</p>
<p>I know a guy who was in the LLC in Degraff last year, and also had problems with his roommate. He switched roommates with his suitemate; I know this isn’t likely to happen, but maybe there’s someone in your LLC that will switch?</p>
<p>stalkmama: that’s how I feel. But moving is difficult with the living learning community.</p>
<p>parent2noles: She made a little conflict too personal and my family is now involved. I’ve already spoke to everyone I can about it (R.A., Residence Coordinator, etc). We’ve already tried to work things out and it did not work. </p>
<p>torioreo: I’ve talked to every girl in the LLC and asked if they would switch. I was extremely professional about it and didn’t “complain” about my roommate. I found two girls who refused to move in with my roommate (they already heard about her), but would definitely move in with me. I politely mentioned this idea to my roommate, and she absolutely refuses to move. She wants me to go, but she’s unwilling to go. I am willing to go, I just can’t find someone to take my spot.</p>
<p>My daughter had a similar situation last year, so I can really sympathize with you. She tried all the same things that you did without any success. She eventually got someone to switch with her, and I can’t begin to tell you how much happier she was for the rest of the year! The former roommate went through two other girls and remained miserable all year. I would recommend that you put in a room change request and go wherever FSU can place you. Giving up a nice dorm or LLC environment for a good roommate situation is well worth it in my opinion.</p>
<p>If you’re miserable now, just realize that this isn’t even week 7 of the FIRST semester. You still have over half of this semester, as well as all of next semester, that you would have to put up with this person. </p>
<p>If your roommate is unwilling to move out (I’m assuming because they haven’t figured out it’s still possible to remain in the LLC?) then that pretty much leaves you with only two options: Stay miserable or move out. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, it looks like you’re going to have to be the one punished pretty much no matter what.</p>
<p>My only other option is to move to Kellum. She has the option to switch with a girl down the hallway and stay in the llc. I’m trying to get that option for myself, but no one wants to live with her (I’m not exaggerating). I’m first on the list if a new spot in DeGraff opens up. My residence coordinator said that more spots will open up in the Spring, so I will definitely move then.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t want to be in a situation where I felt I couldn’t go back to my place because I wasn’t comfortable being there. I personally would move to Kellum (the only people who hate on the community halls are the ones who never lived there). Only concern with moving to Kellum is, why is there an open space? Is it because their roommate felt the need to move just like you? You would kick yourself if you got stuck with another bad roommate AND had to move to the other side of campus. Plus, a bad roommate in a hall like Smith or Kellum is accentuated by the fact that the rooms are a bit tighter.</p>
<p>That said, if you knew for certain that you’d have a better roommate situation in Kellum, I would go with it. The community halls are a lot of fun, and like I said… not nearly as bad as they’re made out to be.</p>