Roommate Issues

<p>Hi! Does anyone know if it's possible to switch rooms at the end of the semester? Do many people ever move out or drop out? I've known people to move in for the 2nd semester.... Having roommate problems...stupid stuff. I've tried to talk to her and it worked for a little while but now it's all happening again. Nothing huge but it's pretty miserable in there. I'd rather not move out, I really love my neighbors in the hall but I just hate not feeling comfortable or welcome in my own room. I'm going to try to talk to her again but if it still doesn't work out I'm just trying to think ahead. Thanks!!</p>

<p>Talk to student housing to see what your options are if you can’t work it out. Have both of you sat down with the RA who could act as a non-biased moderator? No reason to have what should be the best time of your life turned into a nightmare. You probably want to avoid moving away from the new friends from your hall and start over in another dorm where you will be late to the party.</p>

<p>Your dilemma reminded me of my freshman year when I was stuck with an oddball senior transfer from NJ. He had nothing of his own but the covers and sheets on his bed, records, and baseball cards. The stereo, TV, most of the furniture were mine and he pretty much took over everything I owned and would crank his bad music (think Styx and Lake ) when I was trying sleep. He’d refer to me as Frosh and treated me with zero respect.</p>

<p>Over Christmas break I had a pit in my stomach about going back to room with him second semester. The good thing is I had some leverage since most everything in the room was mine. The first week back I finally had enough, lost my temper, and then had a “come to Jesus” talk with him. I told him I was sick of him and I didn’t want him to touch my stuff for the rest of the year unless he started treating me like as a peer.</p>

<p>He completely backed off and became very nice and respectful to me. It wasn’t false respect either, I think me standing up to him put me at equal footing with him. The next two terms were much more enjoyable as we found some common ground and even did a few things together. Then sophomore year I roomed with a guy that lived down the hall and had the best year of my life.</p>

<p>This turned out to be a good life lesson and was really the first time I took a stand like that for myself against someone of perceived higher status.</p>

<p>Thanks! I talked to my RA and she said she’d let me know if any rooms open up. I really don’t want to move but I tried to talk to her again and she blew up and started screaming at me. We haven’t said a word to each other since. Luckily the other girls in the hall heard her and have been very supportive. I was just trying to talk to her about what we can do to live peacefully together. Hopefully something will open up or she’ll decide she doesn’t like living like this. Thanks for your advice!! I’m glad it worked out for you. :)</p>