<p>My roommate is a freshman, I'm a sophomore. We were randomly placed together.</p>
<p>She has had some issues with finding friends here. She hit it off with some girls and then they were gone by October. She was sick a lot first semester, and ended up having to go home (she's local) quite a bit. She missed a lot of class and kind of lost her chance to make friends during that key point in the fall of freshman year when everyone's desperate. This semester, people are more settled in and it's much harder. I didn't get the impression she had more than a handful of vague friends by Christmas.</p>
<p>I don't think she's the best at picking friends, to be honest. She talked about people in high school and I was kind of shocked at how horrible they behaved toward her. I should mention that she is very pretty and slim, she sort of looks like the average sorority girl and I think she really wanted to have that experience in college. She definitely has anxiety issues and self-esteem issues.</p>
<p>But anyway, last semester she asked if a guy friend from home could stay and I said I didn't care. I had a hunch he wasn't a friend, and it turned out they had history but she was kind of fed up with him and it wasn't happening these days. After she told me a bit more about him, I pretty much told her that she deserved a lot better than him. She seemed to really really appreciate this.</p>
<p>Another time, she invited a friend over on a Friday night when I happened to be there. It just so happened that I didn't have much work to do and was in a good mood and her friend was really cool, so the three of us just hung out for a couple hours and drank a little bit of my roommate's vodka. That was no big deal but I wonder if I set a bad precedent. </p>
<p>Since we've gotten back from spring break last week, she's used our room as a meeting place before they go out twice. The first time was the Sunday before school started back up again, which also happened to be St. Patrick's Day. I got back at 7 and was completely exhausted from being in transit for about 12 hours. At 8, her friend showed up and they pregamed for an hour before leaving. It wouldn't have been so annoying if this friend wasn't incredibly annoying. </p>
<p>Last Thursday, she brought like five friends in. I asked her if she had plans tonight and she said she was going to a party and her friends were coming here and then they were going. I know that I looked annoyed, but she said that they would only be here for a second and so I just said it was fine. She knew I was irritated though, especially b/c she knew I had like two giant assignments due the next day. The girls came over and again, pregamed in our room for about an hour while I just hung out at my desk with my laptop. The girl from St. Patrick's Day was there and kind of running the show.</p>
<p>After spending very little time in her company, I have a pretty low opinion of St. Patrick's Day girl. She talked at length about breaking up with her ex-boyfriend and it sounded as if he should have broken up with her a long time ago from the drama she was describing. She's been kind of rude to my roommate too. She also used the n-word twice, called someone retarded, and joked about how jewishy the jewish frat was for making them BYOB. She was white/blonde, by the way. So is my roommate and so were the other five girls she brought on Thursday. Though our school's pretty diverse.</p>
<p>It's not that I'm worried about getting all of us in trouble for drinking in the room, it's more like it's just annoying to have them all drinking and shrieking in my room. I'm a curmudgeon. I rarely bring friends over, probably once or twice, though that's less because of courtesy and more because it's just not as convenient. I tend to not really party, but I'm gone most Fri/Sat nights. I'm an introvert though, so generally if I'm sitting on my computer on a weekend night, it's because I want to be there. </p>
<p>But anyway, what is my right in this situation? I don't think I can ask her not to have anyone over ever, but I have the right to set some sort of limit. Right?</p>
<p>Second question: Would I be out of line to mention that St. Patrick's Day girl is not a great choice? (Not in the same conversation, but if it comes up.)</p>