So basically I’m a freshman in college and I have to live with a roommate (unfortunately). To be honest, he’s not to much of a problem. However, he is always screaming playing his xbox all day. I never see him do homework or do something else besides xbox. He screams and rages so much while he is playing complaining about the internet lag etc. It even got to a point where he checked his fan across the room just because he ws doing bad at a level. He punches his bed too sometimes.
The reason why this is an issue is because I have trouble sleeping because he can’t seem to put down the controller for 5 fricken minutes. I have trouble doing my homework/studying since his screaming jolts me out of my chair constantly. He even got a noise complaint one time but still screams nonstop. Also, the thing is I’m too much of a nice guy I don’t really say anything because Ive always been shy like this I even talked to him the day he chucked his fan about this. he said he will stop but hasn’t.
Hes so obsessed with video games that he can’t even do his own laundry. His mom has to come on some weekends to the point where half the room is covered in his smelly clothes. I’m over here thinking why does his mom have to come especially to do his laundry for him he’s not 5 years old!!!
Anyways, sorry if I was harsh while writing this I just felt like I needed to rant about him for a little bit. Can anyone tell me where can I usually go to complain about his behavior? or do I just deal with it until the semester ends. Theres only four weeks in my semester so I think I can manage. But please let me know. Thanks
If you have already spoken to him and nothing has changed or if you are afraid to talk to him, speak with the RA. That is part of their job. I would see if you could change rooms or have him change rooms at the break. At S17’s school, they ask you to let them know if you want to change rooms at the mid-year; this was not the case at my D’s school. I would take a video of him ranting and raving. Frankly, though, it sounds like he might flunk out if all he really does is play video games.
Yikes, so sorry you are dealing with this. I agree that shouting and punching the bed is going beyond the line of acceptable roommate behavior, and throwing a fan DEFINITELY. Talk to your RA. You should not have to deal with that. Someone needs to check on him, anyway. Your concerns aside, that’s not healthy for him and someone needs to check in. And, I’ll say it, as a mom…if it was me, I wouldn’t mind you voicing your concerns to me in a gentle way, privately (like, when she’s taking the laundry out, go out at the same time). But everyone is different, and certainly don’t feel pressured to talk to her.
No need to apologize. Your complaints are very valid.
I think gaming has become a huge problem in our youth culture. Both with children and college students. Gaming is a lifestyle and I think housing needs to include it on their application forms just like asking if students smoke.
You need to work on finding a new roommate. This guy will never change. I’m wondering if he will be back next semester. How could he possibly be passing his classes? I hope either he doesn’t return or you can find a new housing situation.
In your prior threads you discuss that you are having a difficult time academically & fear that you may flunk out. Is this still true ? If so, you need to use all the school’s resources that you can including counseling, tutoring & the library.
I would think about videoing him when he is screaming. I would immediately talk to your RA.
Say that he is screaming while playing video games…but that you are worried about him…he isn’t doing laundry either to the point where his mom comes.
Your RA will come and talk to him. If the screaming starts again…immediately call your RA again.
Let’s say you have an 8:00am class and go to bed at 11:00pm. Your roommate stays up to 2:00am every night watching videos. Quiet hours are after 12:00am.
**1) Think about the reasonableness of your request. ** Not having the light of TV on until 2:00am is reasonable. Not having noise is reasonable Not being able to turn your desk light on all day because your roommate never gets out of bed isn’t. Not being able to leave your dirty clothes all over the floor isn’t. Having guests over occasionally is reasonable…but having a boyfriend move in is not.
**2) Take steps to ameliorate the situation yourself. ** Try eyemasks or earplugs, for example.
3) Discuss issue with Roommate. Say that you are wondering if s/he could use headphones to listen to videos after midnight.
4) See if roommate is compromising..No, s/he won’t use headphones.
**5)Think about what you want to the end result to be…that works for both of you. ** For example: Overhead Lights out at 12:00, and after that, he goes elsewhere or uses headphones
**6) Go to RA. State the issue, state that you have talked to roommate (because they will ask), state that you have tried other steps (like eyemasks) and ask for help in resolving the situation. ** “RA, I would like to get your advice on figuring out a resolution to an issue I am having with my roommate. .”
Most likely they will come up with a roommate contract for you both to sign.
7) Follow the contract…and if your roommate doesn’t, then go back to the RA. If your roommate retaliates, go back to the RA.
**8) If RA doesn’t follow through or is useless, see if there is a different RA in your building. If not, go to the Housing office. **Explain you have gone through the “chain of command”…that is, you talked to your roommate and then the RA but the issue still exists and it is preventing you from sleeping.