Maybe get a white noise machine so u won’t hear her.
Maybe start taking 5 am showers and she’ll get your point?
What’s wrong with showering the night before if you have an early class?
I showered late at night because I’ll shower right before bed. I work best at night just like others are morning people. I usually wouldn’t even be back to my dorm before midnight. In no universe would i have stopped what I was doing to go home and take a shower and then come back.
It is not reasonable to dictate someone’s shower schedule. It’s just not.
I think you wake up and then you get angry and can’t go back to sleep. A person can normally fall back asleep when awakened by light noise. You should try ear plugs, a tower fan and a noise machine. If you still have sleep problems you should see a sleep specialist. I hope you realize most of us would love to have more than six uninterrupted hours of sleep. If you ever have a mate in life there will be much more to compromise about than late night showers.
@iwannabe_Brown When I wrote that comment, I was still under the impression that the roommate was actually sharing the same room with the OP (somehow I didn’t catch on that she is just a suitemate before I posted - see #14 where I admitted I wasn’t paying attention). I was just imagining that the the problem was mainly the moving about and possibly banging around in the room before and after showering - not the actual noise of the shower (see also later in my comment where I complained about how loud my kids are when they get ready in the morning - and they DO shower the night before). I was just letting my personal experience with my kids cloud my thinking on what the actual problem is.
I also was assuming that the roommate was in the room for a couple of hours before going to bed, and could have chosen to shower earlier instead of waiting until midnight when her roommate was sleeping. In the morning example, I was just saying that a person can’t help it if they have to disturb a light-sleeping roommate when they have an early class. They’ve got to get up and go to class. But you are right, they can minimize the disturbance if they are a considerate roommate by showering the night before.
I’m a night person. But I much prefer to shower in the morning. No, I would not choose to shower at night just because my suite mate preferred it. Nor would I ask a suite mate or roommate to adjust their shower schedule.
Honestly, if a shower in the next room disturbs your sleep that much, I can’t imagine you’re getting much rest in a dorm anyway.
For some people, the morning shower is essential to waking up. For others, the bedtime shower is the calming routine that readies them for sleep. I have known people who would not get in bed without showering first because they felt that anything else would make the bed dirty. Bathing at night is often the norm for people who grew up in warm climates. This is a personal choice. Some people may be indifferent as to when they bathe while others may nOT be.
I think it’s fine to ask the suite mate to be as quiet as she can, but it is going to be incumbent on you to figure out how to deal with it. I also agree that if you see this as something she should change but won’t, you will be angry about it, and that isn’t going to help you fall asleep. Take the challenge : figure out what you need to stay asleep or get back to sleep quickly. That self-knowledge and skill will serve you well in life – you’ll almost certainly need it.
You could try to sound dampen the wall if you won’t change her schedule.
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If it is the sound and you sleep near the shower wall, maybe try one of those padded headboards to muffle the sound.
@skieurope Oh you caught that. You guys are good.Thus the high pay.