I’m a college freshman and I was assigned a triple and its the worst thing thats happened to me. First off my roommates immediately hit it off and became fast friends which I don’t mind, I’ve made a few friends these past two months. But what has really annoyed me is: they’re awake laughing and talking to 2-5 in the morning, they have guests over for sleepovers without asking, they’re okay with eating my food but if I ask to use something of theirs they get really bitchy. They don’t even acknowledge me, they don’t say hello or bye its like I’m invisible. Their hectic schedules are seriously affecting my sleep and I don’t want that to affect by grades. I’ve tried addressing these problems (which I feel is pretty much common sense and being respectful) but I’ve just been ignored. At this point I just want to move into a double because I don’t think I can’t resolve this problem with them. Frankly, I’m past trying to be friends with them and I don’t want to spend the rest of the year in that place. I’ve barely been able to stand it for these past couple of months. It’s honestly really affecting my overall college experience which sucks because I was really excited. I’m going to have a meeting with the person in charge of switching rooms, I’ll explain the situation to him but what else should I say to convince him to let me switch rooms?
Have you met with your RA? Have you asked the roommates about quiet hours and not having visitors sleep over (a triple is cramped enough!). If you’ve only suffered in silence or halfheartedly raised the issues, you may get pushback in changing rooms. That said, some colleges are more open to it than others.
Yes I have had discussions with them and I feel like my RA can’t do much since we didn’t officially sign the Roommate Agreement.
That sucks. Definitely seek a change in the living situation by addressing it with the housing authority. From my experience, a change is housing is notoriously slow moving because on most campuses housing supply is tight. An RA may take a wait and see attitude believing the situation will tide over in time. If it turns out to be the case, a good strategy may be to take up the issue with the authorities on a weekly basis - in other words “pester them”. Become a squeaky wheel, so that they have deal with your issue. If your living situation has become untenable, what other option do you have, other than seek change some how.
Why didn’t you ask for the agreement? It isn’t too late.
Yeah I actually have an agreement sheet in my possession so I’ll bring up with my roommates next time I see them.
thank you for your response. I am also looking at outside housing like apartments in a nearby town from the school which is walking distance from campus. the only problem with this is that I will not be able to eat at the dining commons and I would have to pay the rent of the place I am staying in now until they can find a replacement, which isn’t guaranteed.
I wouldn’t take on rent in an apartment in that situation. At a lot of schools more students go abroad or drop out for second semester, so there is more open housing. They might not find someone.
You could ask your RA to meet with all of you and get the agreement signed, too.
@jessxortega Different colleges have different procedures. At my son’s college triples are due to over crowding and the goal is to find a double for the third roommate. They usually do it due to the fact a lot of freshmen drop out. Intparent gave good advice. Stress the fact they invite sleepovers without consulting you and don’t honor quiet hours. There is probably a spot for you elsewhere. Don’t get into a lease off campus while you still have to pay for a dorm. At my son’s school freshmen have to live on campus and a member of my FB page has a son who is being evicted and kicked out of classes because he hasn’t swiped his key card in over a month. He secretly moved off campus but retained the dorm room.
Yes, contact residence life and find out what the change procedures are. Get your parents involved if necessary.
It sounds like a rough living situation. I’d stress that their 2-5am hours are affecting your sleep and studies. Plus the overnight guests should be a safety issue (how big could this room be anyway?). I wouldn’t bring up that they ignore you because that’s not the main concern and might make it seem like you want it to work. And yes, be persistent and follow up and ask your parents to call if you don’t get resolution. But don’t take on apartment rent just yet. Good luck!
You probably have 3 weeks left till finals.
I would concentrate on changing roommates for the Spring semester. Ask around; see whether your friends know any potential roommates for you. Then speak to whichever office handles this stuff and work to get things changed for January.
I am sorry this happened you. I have always thought triples were a formula for one person being left out. Especially with girls.
I think you are smart to work on moving. I think as you go through the proper channels it’s important to remember that you are the consumer. Demand to move! There is no way you can live with roommates who are up half the night talking and socializing in your room. What about moving to a double? Maybe a transfer student would be available? I agree to focus on a move for second semester. It is JMHO but I would suggest staying on campus and staying with the dining hall especially if you are a freshman.
This is one I would get parents involved in. In my experience a persistent parent has a lot more luck with housing office. So go thru channels and procedures but have your parents ready to step in.
“You probably have 3 weeks left till finals.”
As a temporary help get an eye mask and the best most comfortable earplugs you can. It may not eliminate the problem but perhaps blunt it’s affects. Then look to change your living situation for next semester.