roommate/tv issue

<p>Ok, so my roommate watches tv all. the. time. I live in a quad, which has two doubles on either side of a common room, which does have a tv provided by one of the girls in the other room. My roommate watches tv when she's doing work, when she's bored, when she's falling asleep, etc. Now, I brought this tv at the beginning of the year, after asking her in a facebook message if she thought we should have one in our room, because I might be able to bring one. She replied "yea lets have oneee!" I only watch one tv show every week, usually online because I have a meeting during the time its on, so I never use the tv. Last year I didn't have a tv in my room at all, and none of my roommates (we were in a triple) had any issues with it. The tv in the common room isnt used often, although the other two girls have their desks in the common room, which means if they're doing work you can't really be in there, which is a whole other issue. Anyway, the tv keeps me from studying in my room and I generally leave whenever she's watching it (which is basically every night around 8-11 or 12, when i go to bed, and most of the day if she's in the room) because all that's ever on is CSI type shows, which I'm not a fan of at all. Would it be rude of me to bring it home when my parents come to get me after finals? She can use the other tv if she really needs to watch these shows, I just can't study with a tv constantly on, and I feel bad asking her to turn it off, and instead always end up going elsewhere to study and do any sort of work.</p>

<p>Here is what you should do. Ship it home UPS or have your parents pick it up if you can’t afford the shipping, or have your parents give UPS their cc #. But just get rid of the tv somehow, then what is important is what you tell your roomies. You just say that you spilled water on the tv and it doesnt work anymore and you sent it back to the company for a warenty replacment and that it might be a few months until they fix it and send it back.
Problem solved!</p>

<p>It’s your right to do anything you’d like with your TV, but if you haven’t confronted her about the issue, things are going to take a turn for the worse.</p>

<p>Suppose you brought the TV back home. That might be your roommate’s first hint that something is wrong, but it’s really bad at that point:</p>

<ul>
<li>Your roommate now has no idea whether or not you have other things against her.</li>
<li>You are seen as a passive-aggressive person.</li>
<li>The lack of transparency can cause issues.</li>
</ul>

<p>Not to mention, the fact that you let this go on has been a huge detriment to you. It’s time you tell your roommate about the issue as she might not be aware that you can’t study with TV. It may feel bad, but it’s going to be much worse if you do anything else.</p>

<p>I think it would be rude to just take it home if you haven’t even bothered to discuss the issue with her and try to compromise, you didn’t mention having done that yet. Just getting rid of the tv when you volunteered to bring one and agreed to share it with her, I think, is a crappy thing to do, not to mention childish. And if you’re too afraid of confrontation to handle something so simple as asking her to turn the tv down or watch elsewhere, how are you going to handle it when she asks you why you sent the tv home without saying anything? She is either going to ask, or assume you had some kind of problem with her and were too passive aggressive to say anything, which is going to make you look like an ass either way. I don’t say this to insult you, but you do have to think about how that action will be perceived by your roommate. It IS passive aggressive.</p>

<p>If you had tried and failed to compromise I would feel differently. If the tv is causing conflict by all means get rid of it, but the tv isn’t causing conflict, your lack of spine is. This would very likely be a non-issue if you just spoke up, but you’re not giving your roommate a chance.</p>