<p>I'm looking for sage advice from you wonderful parents. My daughter is having roommate troubles and asking for help from me.....what would YOU say/do?</p>
<p>Here's her side of the story (notice I say HER side. I know that there are always 2 sides):</p>
<p>D is a pretty solitary cookie. She is not a partier/drinker/social butterfly. When she's done with class, she is pretty happy to go back to her room and just hang on the computer and such. That may not be ideal, but it is her and I feel like as long as she is happy and content, it's OK (she says she is).</p>
<p>Roommate is much more social and has lots of folks in and out of the room. She says D is "giving off a negative vibe", that D needs to get out of the room more and go to parties, enjoy the college experience.</p>
<p>Roommate has a new "boytoy" as she calls him and has, on at least one occasion asked D to vacate the room so they can have "private time". D obliged and was basically out in the hall for about 5 hours because roommate never texted her to let her know the coast was clear (roommate says she did text but D says she never got it).</p>
<p>Last weekend, D's BF came up to visit and, even though (according to D) she had cleared it with roommate to have some alone time in the room, roommate now says she's not OK with having done it, that D should be more accomodating, etc and that D is manipulative (not sure what that is exactly referring to_</p>
<p>Roommate went to the RA to complain about D and they are set to meet with the RA, I think tomorrow. It bothers D that Roommate didn't tell her that she was going to the RA and now she's afraid she's going to be painted at the villain.</p>
<p>I told D that I think it's a good thing to go to the RA, that changing roommates isn't always the best thing even IF it's possible and that she should go to the meeting with an open mind and try to find a way to compromise--maybe she could agree to make herself scarce for an hour or two every day so the roommate has some alone time with the room. </p>
<p>Anyway, I try to stay out of this stuff, because I know it's typical drama, but my d does have depression/ADD issues that I worry about not to mention the stressors of college in general.</p>
<p>What would you all do?</p>
<p>Thanks in advance</p>