Hi, I’m a freshman at a college with a spring rush. I am considering rushing for a frat next semester. I want to at least go through the rush process to see if being in a fraternity is what I want to do, and potentially make more friends. I’m not like most college kids who absolutely need to party, but I like to get out once in a while and also want to have friends to make college more enjoyable.
My dilemma is, I’m not sure if I should rush by myself or not. Most of my friends and acquaintances at school are girls. I do have my best friend from hs here, but lately we don’t always hang bc I feel like I’m intruding on him and his roommates. He seems to just do whatever his roommates are doing and will probably rush with them, but in frats more focused on “prestige”. I’m just wondering if I should go ahead and rush a fraternity I may be interested in alone, or rush with him and go to one’s I don’t like.
Rush the frats you are truly interested in joining.
There is no problem in rushing alone. There are a lot of OOS kids or others who may not know a lot of people rushing. My S looked by himself (no formal rush at his school) and is now president of his frat. You can go to an event and leave if it doesn’t interest you. No one with you making you stay. See if any “fit”. If you know one doesn’t interest you don’t’ go.
@Lordvoldosnort There’s no issue with rushing by yourself. In fact most people do rush alone. I don’t know how your school does it but mine has formal recruitment that is close to what the sororities do in certain aspects which eliminates the need to rush with friends. I can tell you that as a former recruitment chair of one of the largest chapters at my school is if you’re chill and a good fit for what we are looking for then it doesn’t matter if you rush alone or not. The key is to rush a fraternity that you’re a good fit for. Getting a bid from a “top” house but not fitting in usually means you’ll get dropped during the pledge process. Feel free to pm me if you have more questions.
My son just rushed alone. Best thing he could have done. I was concerned about rushing so quickly as a freshman but he too wanted more to do socially. Through the rushing process he also found a fraternity where he really liked the guys and was a perfect fit for the group. As he rushed and pledged he widened his social circle and experiences sometimes being able to include his friend back at the dorm. He continues to keep in mind sharing his time with both his fraternity friends and his dorm friends. It has all worked out well. Go for it. Rush and see what is out there.