<p>Hi, I have decide to rush my freshman year (fall). At my school there are over 50 fraternities and i have narrowed down to 7-8. 6 of them are top fraternities. I am wondering how hard would it to be to get a bid from them. Im planning on visiting a lot of them over labor day week (I've been in school for a week). If i was to give you some details about myself to get you to know me better is that i just turned 18 two weeks ago, 6'4, 140 lbs (yeah I'm very skinny, I'm trying to fix that), not a lot of muscles (also going to fix because gym is 5min walk away), sorta attractive (like people don't run away from me). During hs, i didn't really have many "real" friends (I had friends, I wasn't anti-social) and as a result, I believe that joining a fraternity would help that greatly (idk if that is a good point to talk about with fraternity brothers, please help).</p>
<p>Especially since I'm rushing top 5 fraternities could you give me tips on what to do (ask for the rush chair?) and stuff that is good to say. During hs, i was usually the quiet one (youtube helped me a lot) and I am going to make sure I'm not going to be shy and quiet. Ill try and remember all the brothers and make them remember my name. Anything else? Please help. Thanks in advance. </p>
<p>Why are you almost exclusively rushing “top” fraternities when it sounds like you barely know any of the brothers, and one of your goals is to make friends (hint, there are a lot of great guys in non “top tier” frats, whatever that term means)?</p>
<p>Don’t rush the “top” fraternities because that’s what everyone else will do. After college being in a top fraternity will not matter at all. Join a fraternity because you like the brothers there and they like you as well. I did this and my four years at college was awesome because I had true friends and not fake friends. People who will be lifelong friends who I meet regularly even though we graduated. Some tips for you during rush is to meet as many brothers as possible because the more recognizable you are the more likely you will be invited back for them to get to know you. Another tip is to not be awkward, be sociable, likable, and easy to get along with. Also join a fraternity that is apart of the school’s IFC and also is a NIC fraternity. Also join a fraternity that has good national chapter and has a good deal of alumni involvement. </p>
<p>Realize that “top” varies from campus to campus… And that on any individual campus “top” also caries from year to tear.</p>
<p>So if you want to join a fraternity, visit as many as you can, keep an open mind and see which house has the personality that fits you best </p>
<p>First, if you aren’t a good fit, you likely won’t get a bid. The guys already in the house are looking for guys they want to hang with-- just like you.</p>
<p>So second, realize that you are looking for guys you want to hang with for many years to come. You won’t be hanging with a fraternity’s name but its people </p>
<p>You don’t want to be afraid to talk about anything with the brothers. Be completely yourself so you’ll know if you mesh with the guys and if they mesh with you. You don’t want to be a tryhard and just try to appeal to them while hiding your true character. It will be bad for you in the long run. These are the guys you’ll spend 4 years living with, you’ll vacation together, they’ll be at your wedding, you might work together; the brotherhood lasts longer than just your 4 years in school so you want to find the perfect fit. Don’t be too concerned with “top” frats and expand your search to just ones with a good reputation. You want to get exposed to as many as you can then especially focus on you top 1, 2, and maybe 3 but that’s a stretch. You only have so much time to rush and go to BBQs, game nights, lunches with brothers, interviews, etc. and make yourself known to everyone so you get a bid. You don’t want to overextend yourself because you’ll just be another guy and won’t get a bid.</p>
<p>GL hope you’re having fun with it over this weekend.</p>
mikenan: u suck, why r u demoralizing kiddos, bitch
Just try being yourself UofCollege. They are gonna judge over a many different qualities.
Main theme: they need someone fun to hangout with them, who they wanna spend 4 or more years.
Just be yourself, because that certainly helps in long run