S1 loves Facebook; S2 refuses to use it!

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<p>S1, who is a sophomore in college, uses his FB a great deal and really likes it. S2, who is a junior in HS, hates it, thinks it's stupid, and has never put up a profile. And I don't know that he ever will (very stubborn kid). I never bug him or ask him about it but I wonder if when he goes off to college he'll be at a big disadvantage. It seems that FB has almost become a social necessity in college.</p>

<p>Thoughts?</p>

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<p>S2 is a smart guy for not having a facebook. :p</p>

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<p>There are many times I wish(ed) that my kids DIDN’T have FB - eats too much time and often substitutes for “real face time” with people. </p>

<p>It has it’s purpose, but I don’t know that it’s a necessity. As long as he is social otherwise and has people to hang out with, I wouldn’t worry about it. Hopefully AT LEAST he has texting!!! :)</p>

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<p>If he finds it to be a social necessity once he is admitted to college, he can create his FB page at that time. Who knows? It may be an advantage to have a clean, focused start not burdened with any reminders of high school silliness.</p>

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<p>Now that parents are all over FB the kids will find another social media.</p>

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<p>Yes he does text, hangs out with friends about once a week, and is on a couple of sports teams. He’s not as social as his brother but not a complete homebody either.</p>

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<p>Different strokes…</p>

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<p>A parent trying to encourage their child to go on Facebook? Wow, things really have changed!</p>

<p>I remember signing up for an account when you still needed a college email address to join. As I got older (and especially as all of my older relatives got on) I think I realized how harmful it can actually be to your relationships with other people–having your lives on display like that is really strange. I got off two years ago and rarely look back; I think S2 is smart for not joining in–there are huge privacy issues with facebook, and I think it really is on its way out amongst younger generations.</p>

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<p>s1 doesn’t use fb; s2 uses it. s1 is introverted and very private; s2’s world is a stage. they are who they are.</p>