<p>So heres the situation: I was on the phone with a coach earlier this week, and we get along really well. Coach had brought my info over to admissions, and the officer had some suggestions regarding the essays I was going to need to write for the application. </p>
<p>Then, she asked if I had started scheduling officials - I said yes. She asked if X was somewhere I was still interested in visiting - again, I said yeah yeah of course! She gave me two weekends and asked if they worked, I said that I didn't have a calendar in front of me but I would let her know - she said she would email the dates and asked that I let her know which one worked for me.</p>
<p>Now here's the issue. X is NOT something I'm interested in at all anymore, and I already have all 5 of my officials spoken for (and both of the weekends she suggested are taken). So I'm going to tell her that in the next few days... </p>
<p>And I'm going to do that over the phone (I feel that thats better than email because this has been going on for a few months now - right?) and I was wondering if any of you who have been in a similar situation could give me some advice. Like how to bring it up? And how the coach you spoke with dealt with it? I've done this multiple times over email, so I know how to do that, but - again - I think I need to do this over the phone. </p>
<p>I would just be forthright, thank her for her time and effort on your behalf and that you have already arranged for your five official visits. I would also let her know that if anything changes, you will let get back with in touch. This is a much bigger deal to you than it is to coaches you are talking with. They are talking to lots of kids with similar stats and most have been doing this for a while. They are used to turning kids down and in turn, being turned down themselves.</p>
<p>BTW, congrats on the five officials, best of luck in the recruiting process!</p>
<p>I think it is better to handle it on the phone–it shows good character–</p>
<p>During recruiting–there are many students hoping for recruited slots.
If there are ay schools–including this one–that really aren’t in the game for you–then best to let each one know as soon as you can.
That way–you are free to handle the ones you really do see yourself at–
and other scholar-athletes get a shot.</p>
<p>One piece of advice a mom of a recruited athlete gave us was this</p>
<p>If you can see yourself at xyz school–and its a great fit–then don’t drag out the issue.
Tell them and make the match.
In the case of that mom’s athlete–she was done and committed early. By Sr yr–her fall and yr went smoothly–she could concentrate on school, her sport and family life etc.</p>
<p>If you have say 2-3 really strong favorites academically and athletically of the 5 that are top ones–then why not consider cutting lose the others. kwim? </p>
<p>Be true to yourself–and I am sure it will work out great.
Congrats on having your OVs scheduled.</p>
<p>Good luck with the phone call.
It shows character to handle it on the phone–especially since you told her on the the phone that you would be open and available for an OV…and since you really had your 5 OVs scheduled–unless you intended to drop one–then you really arent free. </p>
<p>That said–if another school comes to the party–you CAN drop a different OV and take a commitment to a new OV.
Just be sure to handle all of this early–before plane tickets get purchased.</p>