<p>LMAO! Yes I know this is a very weird thread but I'm being serious <em>more awkward laughing</em></p>
<p>I wanted to ask my friends to go hang out with me downtown or something. But I am to freaked that they will say no or something (they aren't the most social people and idk how they really feel about me).</p>
<p>Stoop kid’s afraid to live his stoop.</p>
<p>Are you sure they’re your friends?</p>
<p>@future What?</p>
<p>@almost Yes…well idk we hang and talk at school and fb</p>
<p>I think you should! Its always fun to go somewhere else, and obviously it would make you closer friends. Dont worry too much about them saying no, you could be like “Oh, well, maybe later,” fairly vaguely and maybe ask again when you think they would say yes. Facebook is a good way to ask. Sorry about the cookie- cutter obvious advice, but I really feel strongly about this.</p>
<p>@futurexecutive - i love that hey arnold reference :)</p>
<p>Yeah just try! Maybe you guys will become closer if you hang out more.</p>
<p>I have the same problem… As a dysthymic, I’m afraid to be rejected by people whom I perceive as my friends. Though they don’t mind hanging out with me in school, they don’t particularly want to hang out with me outside of school. That’s really bothersome since all I want in these last few months of school is to make some good memories and spend some time with friends. I’ve only hanged out with them for a very few number of times and I really hope those times will continue but I cross my fingers.</p>
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This is EXACTLY how I feel I just didn’t want to say it…</p>
<p>Look, some people you ask to hang out with and they blow you off. Others don’t, and you become better friends with them–or you don’t. Whatever. It’s sort of like dating I guess. If you’re a guy, some girls will go on a date with you and some will reject you, but you’ll never know until you try. Just go for it, really.</p>
<p>Wow…threads like this are why I don’t go on CC much anymore.</p>
<p>Just call them up or text them and be like “hey man, what’s up?” and go from there. You guys are making it seem like you’re asking Scarlett Johansson out. You’re not. Your asking some dudes to chill.</p>
<p>@BigKev Wow…posts like that are why I don’t like CC much anymore.</p>
<p>Parody Post!</p>
<p>@BigKev: not everyone can be successfully social. I’ve struggled throughout my life to make (and to keep) friends and as someone who have been lonely all this time, I highly value friendship. Because of my awkwardness and possibly something else I’m missing, it’s hard for me to hang out with even people who are my friends. Rejection is extremely painful. For me, hanging out with friends after school will make the day amazing, but it’s rare.</p>
<p>Wow I thought I was the only one who felt this way about friendships and hanging out. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one.</p>
<p>Why are you “freaked”? If you ask them casually and not in a creepy way, it’s their loss for “rejecting” you; there are many reasons for rejection (e.g. not ready, time-constraints), other than the reasons you may invent.</p>
<p>Having people say makes the world of a difference to me! :D</p>
<p>I know exactly how you feel. I get weird when I want to ask people to hang out too. It’s all a fear of rejection, I guess.
A (rather sneaky) way around it is to be all “heyyy, did you guys see that trailer for -insertcurrentmovietitle-? Looked pretty awesome, right?” Then get some conversation about it going, and then be like “why don’t we all go see it this weekend?”
BAM. Instant reason to hang out.</p>
<p>@ryan,</p>
<p>Dude, I know it can seem daunting. Trust me, I was the most socially awkward kid ever as a middle schooler. But you gotta come out of your shell sometime, and a huge part of that is self confidence. For me, that came through playing football and being a part of that team atmosphere. If you haven’t, I definitely recommend playing a team sport. I would not be the same person today without it.</p>
<p>Also, you need to learn that rejection is a million times better than regret. Personally, this was more important to get over my fears of approaching girls, but the same principle applies to you. I used to constantly freeze up and choke whenever I saw a cute girl I wanted to talk to, because like you, I was deadly afraid of getting rejected. Then I’d go home and feel like shyt over the regret I felt.</p>
<p>However, once I finally did so and got rejected (no doubt because of my lack of confidence), I realized that it wasn’t bad as I feared - in fact, it was way better than the regret. If anything, it made me more confident since I knew that was the worse that could happen to me.</p>
<p>So my advice to you is to grab your balls and go for it. If you’re get rejected, so what? In fact, go out and get some rejections, just to get over your fear for it. Just remember, rejection > regret every time.</p>
<p>Well here is an update…</p>
<p>I asked them and we are going to a movie next week (still nervous I am going to mess it up lol). Asking a girl out is easy than this for me lmao</p>
<p>Good job dude.</p>