<p>Setting aside the fact that the OP is male, Barnard College does not award merit aid at all, and Smith College is very selective for merit aid (about 5% of first years get merit aid). Bryn Mawr is fairly generous with merit aid, as about 20% of first years received merit aid, with average award ~$11,000/year.</p>
<p>Of course these are all extremely expensive schools, and even a well above average merit award of $20,000/year would only reduce the cost of Bryn Mawr or Smith to $30K-$35K/year.</p>