<p>*You need to look hard at that whole- the low scores, the misunderstanding of how the SAT is scored, the non-rigorous classes taken, the possible lack of ECs- and help her find an understanding school that will help her flourish. Not a school that expects her to come in ready to run a full race.
That’s hard to hear; I’m sorry. But, I see it as a gift adults can give a child, to help her succeed. *</p>
<p>Very, very good advice. It’s really not about getting her into some school where she’s excited to be going to (but then quickly fails and leaves you with debt from the experience). Her stats suggest that she’s not a strong student. Putting her in a school where most kids have much higher stats than hers is setting her up for failure. This should be about setting her up for success.</p>
<p>I get the feeling that you and your H want her in a 4 year (at any cost) because if you can get her there, then you will see that as normalcy.</p>
<p>Community college makes a lot of sense for this student. If she does well at CC for 2 years, she will be able to get into a much better 4-yr than she would be able to get into now.</p>
<p>Thank you everyone for your advice and kind words. I see what all of you mean about possibly putting her into a community college, it would probably benefit her more as well as be more in our financial status like was mentioned.</p>
<p>Me and my husband will continue to look at 4 year colleges but we’ll be much more open to community colleges, both me and him sat down and had a talk with her about it and she seems interested. I do like the sound of Chestnut Hill College, from what I’ve seen it has a gorgeous campus, a small tight-knit amount of students and the lack of partying I don’t think would bother her much as she’s not much of the social bird.
I did associate a 4 year college with normalcy for her but thank you for showing me that a community college offers normalcy as well.</p>
<p>If anyone else has any more recommendations on community colleges or 4 year colleges please let me know. </p>
<p>Does anyone know what the Moravian dorms are like? She loves the look of the college of what we looked up on line but some of the dorm pictures/community lounges looked a little sparse? I don’t think it would matter much but I think a huge factor would be the look of the library since she loves to spend most of her time there.</p>
<p>First, SAT optional schools. There are some good schools that are SAT optional and may provide the environment your daughter is looking for:</p>
<p>NYU, Wake Forest, Middlebury, Bates, Bryn Mawr(i wasn’t sure if you were aware they are SAT optional), Hamilton College, American University, and Bowdoin.</p>
<p>Those are all good schools that are SAT optional.</p>
<p>Second,</p>
<p>Some of those schools may not give you good financial aid. And trust me, you don’t want to be in debt. You should be aware that there are programs that you can go to community college for 2 years and then transfer to a university to finish your remaining years.</p>
<p>I know at Tulsa Community College in Tulsa, OK, they allow you to go 2 years free and then transfer to the University of Oklahoma or Oklahoma State University.</p>
<p>Best of luck with your daughter! And if she wants a shot at these schools, just have her really work on her essays.</p>
<p>FWIW, community college is the norm where I live, and while I would not have to borrow to send my 3.0 son to a private, I have definitely considered community college.</p>
<p>Sorry, but Buzzers is naming a bunch of highly selective schools- in terms of getting in plus the day-to-day level of academic work required and the academic backgrounds of the kids there.
Good luck, Msmother. The hard work you are doing will surely help.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t worry about her age. 22 and in college is quite ordinary these days when so many people take a gap year or years…and there’s an awful lot of much older people going back to school these days as well. Her age won’t be an issue unless you make it one. And as long as she doesn’t go on beer runs for younger students, it should make no difference to her peers. Nobody seems to ask ages after grade school anyway. </p>
<p>Check out Colleges that Change Lives (<a href=“http://www.ctcl.org)…there%5B/url%5D”>www.ctcl.org)…there</a> are at least three excellent small schools in PA and others nearby. They are private but have good FA. </p>
<p>You might also look at [PHEAA</a> - Pennsylvania Higher Education Assistance Agency](<a href=“http://www.pheaa.org/]PHEAA”>http://www.pheaa.org/) to see if there’s any state money available to you. </p>
<p>“NYU, Wake Forest, Middlebury, Bates, Bryn Mawr(i wasn’t sure if you were aware they are SAT optional), Hamilton College, American University, and Bowdoin.”</p>
<p>@Buzzers, these schools you have named are all reaches, did you read the OP’s background on her D?</p>
<p>any more recommendations on community colleges</p>
<p>You need to look at the CCs in your area. I wouldn’t recommend going to a CC that requires her to live away. Most CCs don’t have dorms and that kind of housing. </p>
<p>I don’t know how the CCs are in your area, but where I grew up the CCs had some beautiful libraries. </p>
<p>You don’t want to be paying OOS costs for a CC or even “out of region” costs for a CC. The idea of sending her to a CC that she could commute to is that it minimizes how much you’ll have to borrow once she transfers to a 4 year. </p>
<p>Also, it minimizes the risk that you’ll end up with a lot of debt without her graduating. You need to consider that there is a possibility that she won’t finish a Bachelors degree. Therefore, you really don’t want to end up with big debt from paying for some pricey school for her frosh/soph years.</p>
<p>Do not equate going to a 4 year now as being “normal.” You can’t rush your child into something that she may not be ready for just for the sake of “normalcy”. If she commutes to a local CC, she’ll have the option of hanging out in the library as much as she wants, and then come home to her loving family at the end of the day. She could thrive in that environment and then get to the point where being at a 4 year will be a smooth transition.</p>
<p>And, let’s add that there is nothing wrong with starting at a community college. Your daughter may be ready for the next phase in her life; she may do just fine. But, successful planning always allows for a hiccup here and there. </p>
<p>At a cc, she could find herself successfully taking on the new challenges (at the right pace)and doing rather well. Think of how her confidence and pride would soar. It’s less about anticipating that she might quit and more about giving her a chance to take the right first steps. </p>
<p>In my area, one small public college functions like a hybrid between a state college and a cc. It has marvelous social work, teaching, art and even science depts. My friend’s genius son chose this school to avoid higher college costs.</p>
<p>I have a son with lots of learning problems and he went to community college for 2 years before finally dropping out and training to be a cook. Community college is great because it’s cheap and because there are all ages. My son was 20 when he went and never felt out of place. LOTS of kids go to CC to explore. They try a variety of courses until they get a feel for what really works for them and then often after 3 or 4 years they go on to a 4-year college. In my son’s case he realized that college just wasn’t for him. Better that he found out with courses costing $150 rather than ones costing $2000, not to mention the cost of room and board. At CC, your daughter will be able to see if she can really handle the science courses required for psychology before committing to an expensive school. She might decide she likes graphic arts better. A certificate in graphic arts can lead to a job, even without a 4-year degree. If you had lots of money, I might recommend an option like College Living Experience (check out their website). They provide a structured environment for kids that need a little help and are located near schools that can handle that type of kid. Lots of girls develop anorexia at college so I would be reluctant to send my recovering daughter away from home at that critical age without some kind of support.</p>
<p>I was actually happy to have found this post at all. We also live in Pennsylvania and I have many friends who have around the same GPA and SAT scores as your daughter. From the sounds of things, I am thinking you are in Eastern Pennsylvania. So, I do not know how much help I can be.</p>
<p>However, I would definitely look into state schools! There are 14 throughout the states. I have personally visited Edinboro, Clarion, California & Lock Haven. All were very nice, and the tuition is considerably lower than a private college.
Also, a friend of mine that has pretty much the exact same SAT & GPA as your daughter applied to Thiel College, and was accepted. Thiel is in Greenville, PA. That may be another option you may want to look into.</p>
<p>I wish you the best of luck with your college search!</p>
<p>I believe she might be able to get into Chestnut Hill however chestnut Hill is a more expensive school which might be a problem. The school is small but is beautiful. (My grandparents live 5 minutes away from the school so I have passed by it quite a few times) Anyways I think it was really nice of you to let your daughter apply to schools you know she will not get in.</p>