<p>To everyone,
Here is a list of colleges I received in a private message from a wonderful CC member who had also had a bad start at college. He wrote:</p>
<p>"Those that I have found to be in the more forgiving camp include:</p>
<p>American University
Hampshire College
Howard University
McGill University
Tulane University
University of California system
University of Colorado
University of Illinois
University of Vermont
University of Washington
University of Wisconsin".</p>
<p>Me again (this was not part of his private message), I have to say that I do NOT think it would help parents to cross these colleges off any ideal list just because they may be more flexible!
Since the college our son was forced to leave DOES require a “good standing” status and is not one I’d rate at all highly.</p>
<p>Furthermore, if you have bad standing at your old college, you will have your application looked at very carefully indeed. (Even by the more “forgiving” colleges.)</p>
<p>And that’s why you really need to be patient.
If you’ve messed up, you will need to prove it was a mistake, not part of your pattern-for-life!
That will take time (great grades at CC while you put a distance between the mistake and your future.)</p>
<p>From our family’s point of view, once we all accepted there was no quick fix getting back on track, it sort of started becoming easier.</p>
<p>We have also found that even colleges that INSIST on good standing may unofficially be more flexible. It can be worth trying to get a face-to-face interview with admissions staff (we did that, only AFTER a year of great CC grades etc) and explaining - this was true in our case - that the old college had a policy of never downgrading a dismissal from a “permanent” if any drugs whatsoever were involved. Didn’t matter what the seriousness of the incident was, or how many extenuating circumstances existed about who was actually responsible etc - our son’s old college had a very, very rigid policy.</p>
<p>However, once he was able to prove what he had learned from his stupidity and once his preferred four-year-college had thoroughly checked into the circumstances of his dismissal (and had his CC record to hand), they were prepared to alter their official policy and - at present - he has been permitted to submit his application to the new college.</p>
<p>This has also taken much patience!</p>