<p>WARNING: I am giving all the details to the situation. This will be a long post!! I apologize! But I desperately need advice.</p>
<p>I am a senior. I have had my fair share of odd roommates throughout my college career, but they were all situations I could handle. </p>
<p>My senior year I thought I was finally getting right with the two girls I decided to share an apartment with. One of which I was very close to and had been for over a year, I will call her Jessica, and the other of which I did not know all that well, but she seemed clean and nice so it was good. I will call her Taylor. </p>
<p>So I went from August at move-in to January with absolutely no problems at all. I was so happy. Happy to come home, happy to be with my friends and everything was good.</p>
<p>Then, I got a phone call as I am driving home for winter break. It is Jessica asking me if she can get a cat. I hate cats. I do not like them AT ALL. But being her friend, I wanted to at least consider it and I told her that she must ask Taylor too and then call me back. She never called me back. I text her (mind you, I'm driving) and I ask if she spoke to Taylor. She texts me back yeah she said not a problem! </p>
<p>I was skeptical. I call Taylor. She says to me that she is allergic to cats and really uncomfortable with this situation. I try to call Jessica she doesnt answer. I have a passenger in the car text Jessica that a cat is a bad idea and it will present issues with Taylor's allergies. She texted me back being nasty telling me that "I am getting what I want" and "It's fine I took the cat back" ....which I don't know why she would get the cat in the first place....we never agreed.</p>
<p>To be honest, we didn't even sign a lease in the beginning of the year with a cat in the picture. We didn't even have to consider it. In order for a cat to be legally in the apartment, me, Jessica and Taylor had to sign an agreement... and it wasn't signed. So to me it was all over.</p>
<p>Once I got home I texted Jessica assuring her I would never want to hurt her and I hope she understands. I wanted her to know that I cared and that I didn't want this to affect our friendship. She didn't reply for 3 days. I texted her again telling her that I was disappointed she would not answer that I expected more from our friendship. After all, it is just a cat and we a human beings......</p>
<p>She gave me a call and apologized. It was all over. Phew.</p>
<p>YEAH RIGHT! In my dreams....</p>
<p>So I get back after my month of winter break and I am in the car with Jessica and her boyfriend Jake and Jessica turns to me and says "So Jake got me the cat for Christmas....but its going to stay at his place" </p>
<p>At this point I can't do anything. If it stays at his place...its fine.</p>
<p>Well....a couple weeks later I go to hangout in Jessica's room and the cat is in there.</p>
<p>This made me mad. She lied about it staying at Jake's. She is disrespecting Taylor's allergies. She is disregarding the lease. She is trying to sneak around me and Taylor by putting a LOCK on her door once she brought in the cat....like we would never find out? </p>
<p>So now. It is more than just Taylor's allergies. It is her making us feel stupid and like she can force this situation upon us. </p>
<p>I text Jessica the next day (I did not say anything when I was in her room because she had an out of town guest) and I tell her we need to talk. I am upset about the cat. Taylor didn't even know about the cat yet because Jessica did not tell her about the cat at Jake's.</p>
<p>We all meet back at the house after a few texts are sent back and forth and Jessica is screaming! Screaming at me and Taylor! And I am trying to rationalize with her. So badly trying to get her to understand how she made us feel and why allergies are a huge concern. She just didn't want to understand.... She just said that now the cat can't stay at Jake's because his roommates don't like the cat (I was later to find out they told his roommates it would stay at our place...so they lied to both parties)</p>
<p>SO NOW after ONE conversation 6 weeks ago...in which she was screaming, and we were all heated, she wants to move out. </p>
<p>I have asked her on several occasions to talk to me one-on-one so there is no issues of her feeling attacked.</p>
<p>Nope.</p>
<p>And now she tried to find a male replacement for her part of the lease.</p>
<p>Me and Taylor said no because we don't want to live with a guy. It makes us uncomfortable. That was not in the cards when we signed the lease and we can say no.</p>
<p>When I told Jessica that we refuse to live with a guy I also suggested that she consider still living in the apartment. I suggest the three of us all talk again because we haven't spoken since the 1 argument six weeks ago.. I told her that since she has found a new home for her cat (her permanent residence two hours away) that it is totally logical for us to try to work this out like adults and move past the situation.</p>
<p>I get no response.</p>
<p>And instead, she deletes me off of Facebook. </p>
<p>Honestly, I am posting this because I am heartbroken. I am not going to go into detail about how close me and Jessica were, but we were close...hung out all the time, really got each other. But, not now.</p>
<p>I don't understand, and I am so confused. I really am a rational person, and I have given her so many chances to make this right. I can only do so much. I cannot force her to talk to me. It's like, when she can't get what she wants she just causes a whole unnecessary situation. </p>
<p>when a cat couldn't be in the apartment because of allergies.....she lost it and wouldn't talk to us.</p>
<p>Now that we refuse to live with a guy she uses silence and deletes me off of Facebook. Yes, I understand its just Facebook....but we all know the significance behind that.</p>
<p>Anyway. I'm seeking advice. Or just opinions. I want to know if I'm missing something. Or if I just need to move on. I'm just hurt and looking for support. I have great family and friends, but I want to hear from neutral sources.</p>
<p>Best,
happygirl55</p>