Well he ended semester with a 2.68. Not terrible. Luckily the classes he had trouble in were just a few credits and did not affect his g.p.a. however, he was sick in the middle of one final, threw up and came back and failed it. They refused to let him retake it. Right now he is taking it up the chain of command to see if he can retake it but so far, no one knows the answer yet after talking to 2 dean’s and 1 department head :/.
If he was vomiting, he really should be able to retake. Did he tell the proctor or whoever was monitoring the exam at the time? He probably should have left the exam and gone to the doctor, which is often required by many schools to get any kind of accommodation from the school for a short term illness. He needs to follow the school’s system, but the school also needs to let him know what it is, so for a first semester, he might get help getting a retake. Hope so!
I think it helps kids to know they don’t HAVE to use accommodations through the disabilities office but they are there just in case. Reduced course load, extensions on papers and so on really helped the kid in our family with similar issues. (She also never seemed to have looked at the syllabus a few years ago, but has improved! I found frequent visits were necessary and still do that even when she isn’t in school, for life things like rent, taxes, etc. I offer to drive her somewhere and she never knows I am checking in on her.)
I empathize completely @cellomom6. The insight issue is especially thorny. Contract? I worked hard to write one that was fair, and it was torn up without reading. Upon meeting with the head of the Students with Disabilities office, she asked if there was anything specific my DC would like to know, to which they replied “I will never see you again.” It has been a couple of years now and it has gotten better (it has gotten worse, at times, too, but today, right now, it is better).
What are the options? For us being in school is the very best option. That is where the growing, learning, and maturing best happens. The “life skills coach” is working wonders. A parent has too much “baggage” to be objectively effective.
I will have to re-visit the DoR. So far DC has not been willing (and with the intake process, my guess is that unwilling does not work!). Thanks for all of the inputs, they are a real help to me, as well.
@Westchestermom, I would like to hear further!
By the way, I am sharing much more than I normally would to let you know you are not alone, and that others also are struggling with these issues. My tendency would be not to share, but I think we all, in this community, need the support.