<p>Maybe I misunderstood, but I believe I saw on another thread that a student said he or she had sent in deposits to more than one school. Is that true? I have never heard of this before. I don't think this is allowed and doesn't sound right because everyone else had to make up their minds a couple of weeks ago. What would be the purpose of accepting two schools anyway?</p>
<p>I’ll quote myself, from the thread about wait list movement:</p>
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<p>remember this is the internet, you can say what ever you want.</p>
<p>Sorry, couldn’t resist. Has always been one of my favorites:</p>
<p>[On</a> the internet, nobody knows you’re a dog](<a href=“http://www.epatric.com/funstuff/dog/]On”>http://www.epatric.com/funstuff/dog/)</p>
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<p>catg, zuzu’spetals, I agree, there’s no way to verify a poster’s identity, nor the claims. However, “double depositing” does apparently happen in college admissions. </p>
<p>Boarding schools draw a very affluent group of families. It must be tempting for some, to gain a little more time to decide. There are families who would be able to pay the deposits to two schools; above a certain income level, requiring a deposit is not a deterrent to this behavior. Even if it’s not true in this instance, it may be true for other families. When a poster is claiming–on multiple threads–to have accepted offers from two schools, others may decide it’s o.k. Families researching boarding school often search old threads for advice. I prefer to point out the real risks involved in such behavior, rather than assume that no one would ever do that.</p>
<p>On the CC thread I linked to above, post #6 by California Dancer claims to have known someone whose acceptances were rescinded due to double depositing:</p>
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<p>Periwinle- I agree- but you said it much better than I could have! When people who are searching for information find these posts, they assume that they are true. This is particularly true of younger students and families from overseas.</p>
<p>It’s not allowed. Period. I wouldn’t worry to much about claims on this board. The poster claiming this has claimed other outrageous thing like applying for aid with a $600K income. So I think it’s unlikely that there is much genuine here.</p>
<p>D’yer Maker’s warning in the beginning holds very true. It’s an incredibly small world and even smaller boarding school fraternity. They all know one another, they’re friends. If Paul really thinks he needs to speak with Michael he will pick up the phone.</p>
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We parents are teachers; what kind of ethics do we teach if we potentially denying a slot to someone else by hogging two slots outselves.</p>
<p>Ethical standards and social rules are one thing. Binding agreements and enforceable laws are another. Although my son, who is on the waitlist of several excellent boarding schools (i.e., Andover, Exeter, Deerfield, etc.), hopes that kids accepted to more than one of these schools pay enrollment fees at only one school, I think that Principleviola and others should be allowed to make such mutiple deposits until someone shows us and them that their contracts with these schools or the binding rules and regs of these schools prohibit such practice. Many people do many things I find repugnant, but until someone shows me that they have breached their promise or broken the law, I’m afraid that I (we?) must grin and bear it, although we can constantly howl or reason against such unacceptable behavior hoping, all the while, that that minds and hearts may change.</p>
<p>I spoke with the adcoms, and I have until a very specific date to make a decision. They know of this… Same as doing it if you are on a waitlist, except with an acceptance letter. I would add, on that note, do not do this without specifically speaking with the adcoms.
While that may be true, anti trust laws are quite severe.</p>
<p>I’ll quote a few posters who have been successful with “double dipping”… I have one, right now.
All that unless you speak with an adcom. Explain your situation… I see numerous posts on this forum about students withdrawing in the summer when they have to pay the check. That is a special circumstance, how is this not?</p>
<p>Where does it say in any rule book that you can’t put a deposit down on two Boarding Schools? Please show me the quote by any school or Secondary school board. After all, you lose your deposit on the one not chosen. The school benefits by the deposit and someone on the school’s waitist benefits as well. It’s too bad that the waitlisted person had to wait so long for the spot but…
You lose your escrow deposit on a house if the buyer cancels escrow. I know a couple that went into escrow on two houses at once so that they have the time THEY NEEDED to decide the right choice for THEM.
I find it real hard to visualize the schools as victims in any of this. until now all I have seen is opinions by Admin folks, who would like to control the whole game. “Give us your money, and let us control the whole game.”
If you want to get into a Prep School you must be prepared to be waitlisted and wait it out until the end. If you wish to whine and whimper about this or that you probably aren’t the right stuff the school is looking for anyway. If it’s your parents complaining, then they are probably on board to ban Dodgeball, and we need to change the Waitlist to the WHINELIST.:)</p>
<p>I think that the schools would frown upon knowing a student has signed two deposits. When the student signs the enrollment form it is a commitment to attend. When the kid withdraws one later on, yes, the school can go to the remaining WL students, but schools feel (like my D’s current private school has said) that they’ve lost many good students by the time they look to fill the spot in May, June or July. This is not the same situation as a kid who signs the commitment but later has a chagne of circumstance, or an escrow deposit where there is still lots of contingencies before you have to commit. The deposit is supposed to be a commitment in good faith to enroll and no student can in good faith attend two schools at once.</p>
<p>I do not know what transpires behind closed doors. The admission committee may very well frown upon what I have done, and I cannot do anything about that. All I know is, I have the go ahead to do it thus far, until a specified date.</p>
<p>I’m sure the schools do frown upon it. Unless there is a written contract between the student’s parents and school that guarantees the student attends the school in the fall there is nothing anyone can do about it.
This isn’t all about the well being of the school is it? The student’s well being has to come into play at some point doesn’t it?
I don’t believe a parent/student would put two deposits down unless their were other circumstances at play regarding the well being of the student/family. Even if it is just “terminal” indecision.</p>
<p>I am curious what the special circumstances could be in this case. Is it that Milton is in NE but Exeter is in mid-west, and the parents couldn’t determine where they’d end up with in the next 6 months? Is it that the tuition rates are so drastically different that they don’t know which one they can afford after all the finance arrangement? what is it?</p>
<p>Why don’t someone write to Milton and Exeter and ask them about the case so everyone can be enlightened what they can and should do?</p>
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Read my other thread… Has to do with relocation… anyway, why does it matter?</p>
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Why doesn’t…? Because it is a terrible idea writing to them about an anonymous student asking and their circumstances. Feel free to do so, I am more interested in their response.</p>
<p>relocation to where? How far is Milton from Exeter? Are you going to be a day student? It does matter because it answers the question: did you do it just to play with the system or did you do it because of special circumstances?</p>
<p>By the way exeter is in NE not MW. Relocation overseas, so yes, it matters. Why would I play with the system? honestly…</p>
<p>Relocation would be to overseas- so you should have been able to choose one school in the US (Exeter or Milton) and then had the school overseas as your second option- having 2 bs options IN the US makes no sense if you are using relocation as the reason.</p>
<p>Also, did they promise to REFUND your deposit if you notify them by a certain date? Or will you lose the deposit?</p>