Hey guys!
So I’m currently a senior in PA and my closest college to choose to go to from my high school would be Penn State, and that’s about 2 hours away.
I’ve known this junior for about three years now, and I really want to ask her out, not just to prom but out out. However, I feel like the 3+ months we have left together won’t really build a relationship. However, it’s probably just my ego but I feel like I need the dating experience before heading to college (I haven’t dated since, forever? Maybe elementary school… lol).
We’re both in FBLA, Science Olympiad, and she’s taking courses I took last year. We’re good friends and she asks me for help in academics and extracurriculars and other stuff.
Also, she’s probably going into business, and I’ve applied to USC (will she apply to Marshall?)
Please do NOT use this girl as “dating experience.”
Life’s short. Enjoy the time you have. No one is thinking “forever.”
“not just to prom but out out”
Eagerly awaiting a current translation of this section…
@JustOneDad
I mean to ask the girl out. At our school we have separate dances for junior and senior proms and I asked a girl out last year to prom, but not out. You know, we went as friends.
@bjkmom
Yes, I agree. I also feel that unless all long distance relationships after people go to college disintegrate, I want to have a chance at something special.
I know it seems fun to plunge into a relationship and maybe there are times for that, but if you really think you like this girl, why not see her as a friend without having to express immediate and undying love a la Bill the Bard.
Enjoy your time together.
That gives the long-term possibilities much better chances without all the staged drama.
Is there a question here? Just ask her out. Nobody should contemplate a LTR in advance of the first date. The probability is that the relationship will fizzle before graduation, but you will at least have had 3 months more experience.
It’s not just three months…you have the summer too. Go for it.
They certainly don’t all disintegrate, although that is probably more common, judging from peoples reactions. I know several people who are married to a spouse they met in the last few months of HS. And, they didn’t go to the same college.
Thanks @JustOneDad @skieurope @bodangles for your input. I’ll contemplate the situation some more.
Sorry @JustOneDad
Didn’t see your most recent post until after my last one.
I feel like that is what I’ve been hearing a lot about LDRs, because they don’t really see each other that much AND they have the new college environment to deal with. And yes, I’ve also heard those HS sweetheart stories as well.
If you’ve been friends with her for three years you’re probably deep in the friend zone lol. Just don’t get separated on opposite sides of the country (if you do date). You’re a senior, so it can’t hurt. It’s not like you’ll see her again unless you choose to 
Most high school relationships don’t even last, so take into consideration what the people above said about long distance!
The friend zone is self-inflicted. When someone told me my best friend had a crush on me, I said, no he doesn’t…I would have noticed!
He did. And I hadn’t noticed, because he had never made a move. Too scared to be overt about his feelings.
We have now been dating for almost 1.5 years.
@bodangles Always great to see some high school relationships last (I assume?). Did you ask him out or did he ask you out? I agree that the friend zone is self inflicted, but the moment a girl calls you “bro” or “dude” just know you’ve officially got yourself in the friend zone.
Keep in mind that since most people have more than one relationship, it’s safe to assume that the majority of relationships “fail” to begin with, so it’s disingenuous to blame it on “distance”. If you think this can be a long term relationship, there is no question that distance is a stressor, but it isn’t as impossible as so many people want to believe.
Play your cards right; if you build the relationship on respect and trust rather than hormones, you have a much better chance.
There’s a difference between being someone’s friend and being “friend zoned.” I think it’s better that you are friends first - gives you more to talk about and hopefully would reduce the awkwardness. If you are genuinely interested in this girl, go for it. However, if you just want to use her for experience, then stay friends. Be honest with her and make sure she knows that for it to work out, it would have to be long distance after the first several months. If she is okay with that prospect, then give it a try. I would say don’t get physical, despite what your hormones tell you. If it doesn’t work out that will make it easier for both of you.
@Anish14 Ehhhh…it was kind of mutual. 
Yeah, we started dating in October of senior year, so next week will be 1 year and 5 months, and April will be 1.5 years.
I really wish we were going to the same college, but we visit about once a month, if it works out, and spend a lot of time together on breaks.
I hope yours works out for you, @redwall1521! I agree that being friends first lessens the new-relationship awkwardness.
Yeah I’d say go for it, I don’t think it’s an experience you’d regret.
The thing is that you two have to be on the same page… if she thinks your relationship will continue into college and you’re just using her for “dating experience,” that’s just… not a very decent thing to do.
You should go for it, like others have said life is short. Plus, it doesn’t have to be a serious thing, it could just be something light and fun. That way you guys can express your feelings for each other, but if down the line you have to break up, there isn’t too much drama attached.
Ask her out to hang out, to something fun together. Do that a few times (hangout), then sit down and talk (a.k.a. Define your relationship- GF or BFF). Now if on that first hangout you two are just so attracted to each other and end up hooking up, then you should probably talk, if not and things continue you can ruin your overall relationship with her.