@sahmck Great post. I have 2 daughters- one, I could talk to about anything- no subject is untouchable, the other, I have to walk on eggshells around. Even in the same family, you can have differences. They are completely different people.
The open D has her well visit soon. I am not required to go and I don’t want to. She is getting blood work and hates needles, so she will probably want me there. I’m more willing to go, because she will talk about things in front of me. The more private D- no way will I go in a room after she turns 18- as open as I am, she is not. She needs to feel that she is able to talk to her doctor.
I gained weight in the first two years of college. I think some of it has to do with more down time and no home cooked meals plus you stop growing! My mom was a real restrictive eater- no soda, no cookies… it took me a while to adjust my ability to control what I had in my pantry and how I ate it. My mom makes a comment almost every time she is at my house, that she doesn’t understand how I keep all these snacks and cookies in my pantry and not eat them. Not keeping it in the house, works for her, the second I say no ice cream, I want it- we are different people.
OP, only you know your D- it does seem that you think she might not be comfortable with the topic, but maybe she will approach you. Good luck!