Service Academy Preparation for Teen

<p>Hi,</p>

<p>I am new to the board and looking for information in preparing my 15 year son to attend a Service Academy. Let me provide some background on my son. </p>

<p>He's a high school freshman and a straight A honor student. I have him in the Sea Cadet program and he loves it. He's self motivated and has a desire to attend the Naval Academy. I have him in martial arts classes( Muy Thai and Brazilian Jujitsu) and he's on his high school wrestling team. He's in the military club at school and plans to be part of student government next year. He plays the piano and loves music. I also have him involved at church. He's not sure what field he wants to pursue at this time but has an interest in engineering, medicine, and business. Is there anything else I can do as a parent to help him reach his goal? Thanks for any advice.</p>

<p>I would say that he is on the right track. And in my opinion, I would say have him show committment and dedication to a select few activities and not have him do a little bit of everything. You want to show that you have dedication and can stay with something even through the rough times.
Other then that, keep up the school and all.
Everyone wishes that there was a secret to getting in, but there really isn't. Just do well in school and athletics.</p>

<p>The desire to attend has to come from his heart. "I have him involved in...." indicates the drive is coming from you, not him. The road is long, and filled with its ups and downs, and it is easy to become discouraged. Without the inner drive to achieve the goal, no amount of outside encouragement will allow one to persevere.</p>

<p>Leadership, academics, community service, and athletics allow one to be well rounded. The Academies look for committed individuals to lead and serve our country.
CM</p>

<p>Well said, CM. </p>

<p>The motivation to succeed at any Academy must come from within. </p>

<p>I would encourage your son to do his best in school and to participate in those extra-curricular activities that interest HIM. This will help him gain acceptance anywhere. Joining activities primarily because they may look good on an application is a waste of time and effort. </p>

<p>As CM also said, the main reason most people want to attend an Academy is to become an officer in the service of their choice and to serve their country. Thus, an Academy is primarily a means to an goal, rather than the goal. If ultimately your son's primary desire is to be a physician or business leader, he should look elsewhere. Those are both excellent careers, but a Service Academy is not the best place to pursue them.</p>

<p>Study, exercise, join clubs/activities, stay out of trouble.</p>

<p>Repeat.... OFTEN.... ESPECIALLY the "Study" part!!</p>

<p>Oh, prayer might also be helpful. There is a bit of luck involved in the process. May as well start getting the Almighty on your side.</p>

<p>You may also want to let the Academy and your MOC's know that you're interested, and remind them every so often. I started bugging USNA early my junior year.</p>

<p>As a mom who once upon a time had a high school freshman with your son's dream....there are a few more things we did.</p>

<p>First, we mapped out her entire four years of academics. We looked at every course needed for the best academic resume and planned it in year by year. We have a huge public high school with only 6 periods a day, once of which was PE, so we were very limited in getting this all in. We cut corners only on foreign language ( her decision ) but she has doubled up on math and sciences and is this month taking 5 senior year AP tests, for a total of 10 AP tests by the time she graduates. So make sure your son is taking a very rigorous academic course load THROUGH senior years classes.</p>

<p>Second - she found out who her BGO officer was in freshman year. She began an email correspondance with this person on her own. She expressed her own interest in the Naval Academy and would email him at first about once every 2-3 months, simply telling him about her school work, grades...her activities. She always sent him her grades at the completion of every year. By the middle of junior year, they already had a relationship established and she had her personal interview in something like February of her Junior year.The BGO said he had never met a more motivated candidate than our daughter. The advantage of doing this by your son, would be that it clearly shows HIS motivation, not yours.</p>

<p>Thirdly, my daughter went over to the congressman's local office and introduced herself to the person in charge of the nomination process. She did this in freshman year. She told the person to expect her in a few years. I remember the smiles on the faces in the office. I don't think this happens very often. When we found out in her late sophomore year that the other lady retired, she went back into the office and did it again with the new person! Bottom line...when we attended our County-wide meeting where all the representatives of the Service Academies/ROTC and Congressman's people were...her face was already recognized. By the time we were actively into the Congressional nomination process, the lady knew our names and
voices when we called on the phone.</p>

<p>Fourthy, we made it a point to interact as much as possible with military and former military people. We went to museums, local events, talked to friends of my husband. We had this relatively easy being my husband is USNA class of 1972 and we live in San Diego County....which has alot of military presence. But again, this was for HER - where she began to think about what kinds of things appealed to her in the military and where might be the best fit. When she first started, all options were on the table. We invited school teachers, neighbors, church contacts and work friends over to dinner so she could talk at length to people who have served in the Armed Forces throughout the past 50 years. She joined the Air Force Auxiliary's Civil Air Patrol, which trains on Camp Pendleton ( a Marine base) in an Army Reserve Building ( just about covered it all, didn't it?).</p>

<p>Fifth, she applied in her junior year to all the Service Academies Summer Seminar programs. While she was accepted to All 3 - we encouraged her to choose 2, which she did. Attending both USNA and the Air Force Academy's summer seminar solidifed in her mind what she wanted to do: Go Navy.</p>

<p>Sixth: She also pursued ROTC applications. The point of her service was to SERVE, not to go exclusively to a Service Academy. She interviewed and tested with the Marines for a Marine Corps ROTC scholarhship and when they asked her her first choice, she honestly told them she wanted to go USNA, but since at that point in time she didn't know yet, she was going to become a Marine Officer no matter what. They told her that was the 'exact right answer' to their question. And she was awarded a scholarship should she have chosen to go to a civilian college and end up with a Commission that way. Your son should be open to this path and not throw all his eggs into just the Academy.</p>

<p>So these were steps our family took to help our daughter prepare for her USNA application. </p>

<p>The biggest part of course, was the fact that all I did was provide some steering for her personal drive and pursuit of her goals. Clearly this method was successful in our family, as she got an early acceptance, called a "LOA" from USNA in October and in under 60 days, joins the Class of 2010 at the Academy. Wow...it's really going to happen. So hang in there mom. It's a real challenge to find that balance between supporting your child in their dream, versus reliving some ego-inhancing dream of one's own through your child. God bless you and your son!</p>

<p>Zaphod couldn't be more correct with the study part. I felt like I was a strong candidate my senior year, but I knew my grades were a little low that first semester of senior year. My BGO gave me his only 5% rating, but I really feel like my D in Calculus that first semester is what kept me out the first time around.</p>

<p>Since then, I've become a little more math-oriented...Got a B+ in the Fall here at UW. The difference was that I studied for every test like it determined my admissions status. Which it really did.</p>

<p>The point is, he needs to be as strong as possible in Academics while getting that good balance of ECs as well.</p>

<p>Whatever you do, keep him on the wrestling team! Although I am only a high school junior, I live in Annapolis and have seen many friends and classmates go onto the Yard as visitors and as students. From their insider's view: if you can make it through a tough wrestling season, you can make it through Plebe Summer, no sweat. Personally, I'm relying on wrestling for admission as much as preparation.</p>

<p>Just out of curiousity, what state are you from?</p>

<p>Avelardo: Get that Smallwood book. We didn't get it until about Dec., of Sr. yr. ,long after my son had gone through most of the appl. process.
When he first decided he may want to try for the academy, I took him to Annapolis to one of the briefings, about March of Jr. year. Before we went, he had applied for the summer seminar that someone had told me would be good for him to attend if he wanted to try for USNA. When we went for the briefing in March, they looked him up and told him he was accepted for NASS. We got the letter when we got back home. He had taken the ACT and SAT before Dec. of his Jr. year because my friend told me that if he wanted to get accepted to NASS then he would have needed to have taken those tests.
Before NASS he had started the application process, writing to congressmen, etc., contacting his Blue and Gold officer, and upon returning home he wrote his personal statement. We didn't realize how important the personal statement was at the time. He wrote it and read it to us. We thought it didn't sound very good and told him so, but he couldn't think how to improve it, so he sent it. Looking back at what he wrote after I read the Smallwood book, I realized how it probably got him good marks because he was frank and
you could tell he had written it himself. He was truthful and said he had never thought about wanting to go into the military until the end of his sophomore year when he decided he wanted to become a Navy Seal. He talked about at first wanting to do a certain activity because it would look good on a resume (horrors!) then taking part in that activity and having an epiphany of sorts.</p>

<p>My son proceeded to take the most challenging courses his school had to offer, and got A's in them Your math, science and english teachers must write evaluations to send, so hopefully those would be good. My son's physics and calculus teacher was also his assistant football coach, so he wrote an evaluation which I believe must have been very good, judging from what he wrote in a letter of recommendation to one of our senators. I think demonstrating an internal drive that is evident in every activity helps display the qualities USNA is looking for.
He also continued to keep studying and retaking the SAT to get his score the highest he he could get it.</p>

<p>My son wrote a nice letter asking one of our senators for a nomination and I noticed that senator was coming to town. We made it a point to attend that function and when the occasion arose to meet the senator and shake his hand, I introduced my son, told the senator what he wanted to do, and we handed him the letter. I agree with Peskemom, you have to keep putting yourself out there so they will remember you.</p>

<p>My son was not involved in any military activities, nor were we, so we wondered if this would hurt him in his chances. It apparently did not.
As people have said before, they know what they are looking for and they will uncover you layer by layer to see what is underneath. If it is not what they want, you won't get in, no matter what you do.</p>

<p>Looking back on what I thought was a poorly written personal statement, they saw something there that indicated my son would succeed and they picked him. If we had helped him write it the outcome may have been different.</p>

<p>I must say, most of the things my son kept track of and did himself, meeting deadlines, etc. because I was busy with work, but I helped with buying nice paper to print the letters he would write to the congressmen, mailing things for him, and sometimes he would reach an impasse, like when he couldn't get the regional coordinator to call him back or e-mail him back because he didn't understand something and had a question, I called the guy at USNA and left a message. That's when he returned by call and told me over the phone that my son had passed the scholastic review board. Talk about happy...!
Anyway, sometimes I would get involved like this--like the senator sent a letter saying they didn't have his college board scores. Well, I realized that when he registered for the test, he didn't realize that you could have scores sent directly to the MOC. I immediately had the scores sent to their offices and called, myself to make sure that they had been received. Well, after I read the Smallwood book, I was horrifed and thought that I had ruined his chances of getting in because I had gotten involved. So it is a very tense process.
Take a back seat and let him do the communications part.
That's one big thing I can tell you to do. Just oversee the process.</p>

<p>So this is some advice from someone who has been through it. I know if is different for everyone, but do read that book!
Good luck!</p>

<p>Thanks to all you for your advice. Peskemom and Navymon2b your posts were AWESOME and you two gave excellent advice! My son told me today that a senior from his school will be going to the Naval Academy this year. He was excited to hear the news. Thanks again for the advice!</p>

<p>Hi Skunk,</p>

<p>I am from California. You are right that wrestling is a tough sport. When I was in high school in the 80's (seems like yesterday) I played football and wrestled. Wrestling was a lot tougher than football. So roll as often as you can.</p>