<p>Thank you bisouu and your D. Perfect timing. 
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<p>bisouu, your D is awesome.</p>
<p>bisouuâŠyou and your D are amazing. That is all! ; )</p>
<p>bisouu, sheâs got just the perfect attitude! Congratulations on raising a strong girl.</p>
<p>I donât remember where I read this (it may have been on another CC thread) but ââŠevery time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being Re-directed to something betterâ. Your D will thrive no matter where she lands. Hang in there.</p>
<p>Momarmarino, thatâs what my D has on her laptop! She reads it every time she opens it, good training for an actress-to-be :D</p>
<p>Bisouu, stay as strong as your wonderful D! I laughed when you wrote about the silver lining you found in the first rejection! Itâs so true, once you get a rejection, you are no longer so impatient with the mail! When I was waiting for the news from Chapman, I literally made my daughter to check the mail every hour! When rejection came, I calmed down and just sat patiently until one morning my D woke me up with good news. I hope the same happens to you! Good luck!</p>
<p>Bisouuâs D: " Rejection is neither an indication of value or talent. Remember that. If you believe in what you have to offer, then donât stop offering it simply because some of those you offer it to reject it. Many people are simply not very good at recognizing talent or value. It doesnât mean you wonât eventually find an audience that will."</p>
<p>Wow, I really donât think you have much to worry about with that young lady of yours. I think she is going to make it just fine wherever she does go. Its very easy to get caught up in the need to get accepted by these BFA programs that we have been researching ad nauseum here on CC and holding to the highest esteem, when in fact resillient determined candidates can go to unconventional programs and wind up with amazing careers. Hearing your Dâs attitude tells me that I think sheâs got it even tho the programs that she has been rejected from donât have a spot that she fits yet, she will make her own pathway in the program that she does choose to go to whether or not the letters after her degree will be a BFA.</p>
<p>@mom2gals Wow, thank you for those very very kind words. You really put things into a good perspective for me. That is exactly how I am feeling and not her. I need to let this go because it certainly is not about me in the least even though I forget that so many times. </p>
<p>Question : How many of you would choose to have your child go to their safety school and come out completely debt free or go into a BFA program with $200,00 in loans?</p>
<p>Debt Free! Is that $200k or $20k in loans? Regardless, debt free!</p>
<p>Sorry 200K</p>
<p>Ouch! Once she gets out of school she will need to be paying off those loans for years. This would inhibit a starting acting career, so I donât see the benefit. Just because it is a âsafetyâ school doesnât mean it isnât a good school. A safety should just mean non-audition, affordable, and an academic acceptance.</p>
<p>Debt free for sure!!! We told son our limit and that some choices would be dependent on scholarships.</p>
<p>Safety schools are supposed to be programs that your child would like to attend, so I would for sure choose a safety over a debt, especially one with so many zeroâs. Many programs that are not discussed here are top quality and the students get a wonderful education and experience. </p>
<p>You should probably wait until all the offers are in and then evaluate whatever trade-offs are available to your daughter. $200,000 is, essentially, a top-cost school with no scholarship. I wouldnât do that, but thereâs a lot of grey between that and 0. </p>
<p>We have no offer from a top school but was just curious what others thoughtâŠshe loves her safety and the longer she waits to hear from her remaining schools the more she is loving it LOL </p>
<p>She canât borrow that kind of money. You, the parent, could, but that is just stupid. If you borrowed $200k, your loan payments would be about $2000/mo. You could spread them out over more years, but you are still paying for a house without having the house to live in.</p>
<p>Even having the student borrow the max in Stafford loans will really limit options at the end of college. $28k in loans results in about a $300/mo payment for 10 years. Thatâs a big chunk of that take home pay for someone making $35k. Do you think someone from a âbig nameâ school is going to make thousands more per year than someone from the safety school?</p>
<p>Less debt is always better.</p>
<p>My S is taking the Stafford loans, but nothing else, and we hope to settle some of that for him before he has to start making payments. I have heard that if you donât take the Stafford loans, it can affect your grant money. (i.e. colleges think you have more resources than youâre letting on.) </p>
<p>You are required to list all your assets on the FAFSA. If a college assumes you have more money since you didnât take out loans, then the college is assuming you are lying. I donât think they do that. Your grant money is based on your FAFSA disclosures, not on whether you took the Stafford loans.</p>
<p>There is a huge difference between $20K, which I think is reasonable, and $200K, which is like a mini-mortgage. </p>