<p>First off, I'm still in high school and will be a freshman next year. How hard would it be to have a chick that doesn't go to my school stay and sleep in my dorm room say 2 nights a week? My female co-worker at the moment is going to have an internship in my college town, but will live about an hour away. Maybe it is college dependent as to how easy it would be, but my future room mate says he'd have no problem with her in my bed 2 nights out of the week. I'd assume RAs don't mind visitors sleeping in student rooms, but is 2 nights a week a bit much?</p>
<p>It varies from school to school. Some have 'no overnights of the opposite sex' but it isn't heavily enforced. It would probably only become an issue if your roommate complained about it.</p>
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Maybe it is college dependent as to how easy it would be, but my future room mate says he'd have no problem with her in my bed 2 nights out of the week. I'd assume RAs don't mind visitors sleeping in student rooms, but is 2 nights a week a bit much?
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<p>Your roommates opinion might change down the line... obviously I don't know the specifics but these sorts of 'friend who partially lives there' arrangements often turn sour. I don't think the RA or school minds when a visitor stays over but they may take issue with the fact that this is more of a semi-permanent arrangement over an extended period of time.</p>
<p>There will be an official school policy, but that policy won't be enforced unless your roommate complains about it to your RA.</p>
<p>she can commute, an hour of commuting is not that bad.</p>
<p>Seriously, tell her to commute. Your roommate might not take it too well and tell you that she can't spend the night. It's scary enough for a lot of incoming freshmen that they have to SHARE their space with others. One step at a time... once your roommate gets used to your girlfriend, he'll ease up.</p>
<p>have fun sharing a college-sized bed with another person</p>
<p>Just don't make any promises, particularly at this point in time. </p>
<p>If it ends up happening down the line, maybe that'll be totally fine, but until you know the policies, you've seen your dorm, you've adjusted to living with a roommate, etc., make it clear that you don't know enough about the situation to commit. </p>
<p>It's a nice gesture, but I don't think it's wise to make it yet (or to ever make it stronger than "yeah, we could try that out for a little while"). Just my $0.02.</p>
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<p>That's a good point. It's more than possible if you're being intimate with the person, but as for just a friend? Hopefully she won't find it awkward when she wakes up and you're basically on top of her, since theres nowhere else to go.</p>
<p>Tell her to commute. Having a 3rd roommate twice a week would get old very quickly.</p>
<p>Is she your girlfriend? The above posters are right, college beds aren't huge and sleeping in the same bed may be awkward for her if you aren't going out... unless you're volunteering for the couch (assuming apartment style). In which case, you're far more noble than I am :P</p>
<p>Not my girlfriend, but she won't find it awkward when she wakes up and I'm on top of her. That's the kind of relationship we have =).</p>
<p>Hey, you need to be thinking about your roomie for a minute... who wants to have their room (that is being paid for at 8k per year) invaded by essentially a squatter, taking away privacy etc. etc. I know that if my roommate tried to pull that sh**, I would be kicking some behinds right out the door!</p>
<p>My room mate for next year has been my best friend since elementary, so we're pretty comfortable talking about this and I've made sure he's alright with it. I'm going to try and narrow it down to one day a week or so. The convenience for her by not driving a couple hours commuting isn't a big deal, but if it's a big deal for my room mate I'll be sure to stop it. I just wanted to discuss if this is -possible- and frowned upon by the RAs or such.</p>
<p>I like where this 3-person arrangement is going ;)</p>
<p>probably should have made it clearer in your first post exactly what was going on...</p>
<p>futons work for people you dont want to sleep on top of.</p>
<p>But I think he does want to sleep on top of her ;) Well, not necessarily sleep :P</p>
<p>This thread has so many connotations and innuendo.</p>
<p>"But I think he does want to sleep on top of her Well, not necessarily sleep :P"</p>
<p>I was just covering all the bases</p>
<p>I hope you don't kick or do random crap when you sleep. For that matter, I hope she doesn't either. Unless you put "sleep" in quotations.</p>