<p>ok so probably almost everyone heard my story and how i moved into usc... everything is going almost great.. i am soo in love with this uni i really never wanna leave.. theres smthg weird happening to me and i tried to ignore it but i feel its getting worse.. if people think whats happening to me is silly, then please i need someone else to advice me on what to do..
I met everyone on my floor and everyone is soo nice. we hang out , eat together and go to the gym together.. theres one girl who has been weird the day we met.. shes in one of my classes.. everything began in class when she suddenely said to me that i am soo beautiful and how the guys in the floor are madly in love with me.. i start laughing and took it as a joke,.. i was like am not beautiful and no one is in love with me.. they are being nice just cuz i am new.. one day in class a guy came up to me and asked to go eat luch with him.. she was standing next to me and the guy unintentionally ignored her,, i made an excuse for the guy and walked with her,, then she said " no one notices me the way ur noticed, ur soo lucky i wish i was in ur place"".. i was like c'mon ur amazing and no one means to ignore u.. and i kept telling her people are just being normal with me and if a guy talks to me that doesnt mean its serious.. then yest we went out for dinner with ppl in the floor.. the guys started talking to me (again being extra nice cuz i am new here) then she whispers at me telling me how the guy on the next table was staring at me.. i looked he didnt even notice me and he was with a girl... i felt she was paranoid.. she looked at me soo weird.. i dont know whats wrong with her.. and then yest she was like " everyone loves u more than me, i am happy for u " i couldnt say a word.. lately she used to call me before class asking me what was i wearing.. and i was like" i dont know, why?? i wear whatever i find in the closet", shes been following me like my shadow and trying to dress the was i dress... i am serious..
before a week we went to the gym, and then she touched my back and told me she wished she was as skinny as i am , i am not even close to being skinny.. i always try to laugh about everything she says and pretend i am not taking it seriously.. but shes kind of scaring me.. i dont know who to tell ,, i dont wanna tell my brother.. i think he might either take it too silly or too serious.. shall i ignore her ?? what shall i do ???
i know some people might think i am being a kid.. but this girl is soo weird and its kind of bothering me ...
sorry for writing aloot.. theres alot that happened but i am sure u guys are sick of reading my post!!</p>
<p>That is pretty weird! I've never had anyone comment to me about how I'm too beautiful or have a stalker guy follow me around...so I'll leave this up to someone else for now.</p>
<p>i hope shes not on college confidential.. that wont be funny at all !!!!</p>
<p>She sounds pretty nutty. Not someone you want to be hanging around a lot. Hang around other people and avoid her.</p>
<p>Dude, this is so crazy, I've never heard of a girl like this before. How old is your brother, is he an older student at USC? If he is, I think he could help you out a lot in this situation, being he has been to that school. If you ignore her, she might want revenge or some crazy **** that happens in the movies.</p>
<p>omg.. what kind of revenge can she do to me???? i am an chemical engineer major.. i have no time for this.. no my brother goes to another university here in california....i dont wanna make him worry... I dont know.. if u guys think its serious ill tell him..
one more thing, one of the guys on the floor was showing me his car ..and then she came out of no where and she told the guy " when i asked u to show me ur car u said later later, and u just offered her to see ur car, ur so mean" and she start giggling and then left.. the guy was shocked and he told he cant remember she ever asked him to see his car..
i am starting to panic.. Is it serious???</p>
<p>nah... there aint nothing wront with her. she sounds totally cool.</p>
<p>She could very well be crazy, but since she isn't physically threatening to you (I would hope), I wouldn't focus too much on it. I wouldn't suggest telling her she appears to be extremely paranoid because that could make the situation worse. Since you both have a class together and live on the same floor it's probably hard to avoid her. This is a tough one. If she is really driving you crazy, I suggest making sure you don't spend anymore time than you need to with her, or say you already have plans to go do something if she tries to hang out.</p>
<p>You should do just the exact same thing she is doing to you. Follow her around, constantly saying how beautiful she is. And then a guy walks by, tell her that the guy just looked at her as if she was venus. Constantly ask what she's going to wear, and cling onto her like a leech. Drive her completely insane and put a photo in your room and worship her as a demi god. call her every night and tell her how much you're jealous of her beauty, and basically have fun with her. Drive her insane and she'll leave you for good.</p>
<p>If you really don't want to do that, you can always be accepting. When she says your beautiful, you can say, yeah, i know, and for a long time too. when she asks you what you're going to wear, tell her something ridiculous and just slap her around. Treat her like a silly kid, and she will eventually become one, at least to you.</p>
<p>baramod,, i liked ur advice alot.. i am gonna try to do exactly what u told me to do...
well see what will happen..</p>
<p>i got advice for you.</p>
<p>RUNNNNNNN! RUNNNN LIKE THE WIND!</p>
<p>Wow, what a creepy girl, lol</p>
<p>Seriously, you need to tell her to stop and that she is freaking you out...that's what i would do...otherwise she's probably going to keep stalking you and putting you in really awkward situations that make you feel uncomfortable...</p>
<p>she's not insane shes probably just reallllly insecre and majorly annoying. i say ditch her gently. what that means it subtly make it clear that her presence is no longer desired, she'll get it. example: you're in class and she waves you over to go sit with her, and you sort of look at her (not too much now) and pointedly sit somewhere. do this for lunch and other things and after a day or two or three she'll give up.</p>
<p>Please don't do anything that could be construed as mean because she obviously has major self-esteem problems, if she's treating you this way, and if you reject her it'll just compound her issues and things will probably end up worse for you both. </p>
<p>I know you've told her she's great but tell her again and also tell her that you think all the admiration she has for you is unhealthy and misplaced, although you're flattered. what are her political beliefs, music preferences, etc.? Make her say something she hates and then pretend you love it, and have a debate or something, and if she quickly goes to your side ask her why she compromised herself that way. Show her how this misplaced admiration of an ideal is abused by political and religious leaders. Both Kerry and Bush are guilty of this (bush goes for the image of down-to-earth texas guy while he went to andover, and kerry shows himself as a war hero) as well as by practically every destructive figure from history. It is much easier to venerate someone as if they were flawless (thus avoiding your own flaws by lumping them into the "I Am Not Her, So There, Sob" category) then to acknowledge that everyone is fundamentally flawed and to take the people you respect not as idols, but as successful case studies, and try to cultivate their qualities in yourself not through imitation but through original thought and discovery. I know this is really extreme but it's what i think she needs to hear and I'm not sure how you should say it. finally if I were you I would tell her that you think hanging out together is bad for her and have a month-long relationship hiatus or something. how is she when she isn't around you? If there is a tactful way to suggest finding counseling, I think you should do that.</p>
<p>Yes, this girl sounds as if she has some major emotional problems. I think that you should disregard beramod's advice and take glowingamy's. Even though she is annoying, this is a human being who deserves to be treated respectfully. Sit her down and explain that you want to be her friend, but can't handle her obsessions over you. </p>
<p>If this doesn't seem to work, then contact a counselor at USC to help her discuss these issues. This girl could be suicidal, and you could help prevent the worst from happening.</p>
<p>but maybe she doesn't want to be her friend...just because someone is attached to you and happens to have emotional problems does not mean that you are obligated to be friends with the person...tell her how she's really making you feel, maybe it will teach her NOT to act way the same towards other people in the future...you're not obligated to take on her problems or be her counselor...if you want to, though, go for it</p>
<p>She might kill herself though...</p>
<p>I think that's being a bit extreme...I mean, if she exhibits suicidal tendencies, I guess you shouldn't be harsh...but most people don't resort to that, especially over something so petty...Also, if she killed herself, this would certainly not be the reason, as there are many factors that accumulate and contribute to suicide...It's unlikely that this girl will do that...it's one thing to talk about killing yourself, but it's entirely different to go through with it, it's not an easy thing to do...and when was it mentioned that she was suicidal anyways? if she were, this would be an entirely different situation</p>
<p>I think that you should gently tell her that she is a wonderful person, but that she needs to branch out in her friendships because you feel that she is not giving herself enough credit, and that she needs to boost her self-esteem. You could still see her, but encourage her to make friends with other students, get involved in some clubs, and possibly see a counselor (if you can tactfully suggest it).</p>
<p>I don't think haneen should continue being friends either because it's a pretty messed-up relationship, but I do think that as the idolized one she has the greatest influence on this girl and should use that to tell her that it's dangerous to idolize people the way she does, that she is compromising herself, that maybe they shouldn't hang out so much because the admiration is unnatural and awkward, and if it can be said tactfully to consider counseling if she wants to or feels overwhelmed. suicide seems sort of irrelevant. All of these things can be said in one conversation and I think this is an obligation.</p>