<p>i'm sure this happens with a lot of people when they first go to college. this girl is clinging to you because you're all she knows and she's scared to venture out and make more friends. granted, she's a little creepy and weird, but i bet that if you encourage her to meet new ppl and make more friends she wont be so dependent.</p>
<p>yeah i think the best bet would be to avoid her. she sounds like she has issues. i think if you tell her to stay away it might get worse or she might kill herself or something. just whenever you see her get out of there. if its still happening in a month defintely talk to a school official or your RA about it. behavior like that for an extended period of time isnt healthy for her or you. so if it gets too much, talk to someone about it. or get a restraining order :)</p>
<p>I saw a movie once with Shannon Doherty in it. She was a part of a band and had a group of friends she always hung out with. Then they asked this other girl to join them in the band. She started doing the same thing to Shannon Doherty's character. She then got totally insane, changed her hair color and style to match, clothes, and then name, then she stole the other chracters signature necklace and got rid of her. Started dating her boyfriend the whole deal, tried replacing her entirely. So at the end the whole group shunned the girl that was the cool one in the beginning and accepted the weirdo as a replacement. WEIRD!!</p>
<p>or, as a more obvious comparison, theres the famous movie 'single white female', where basically the same thing happens.</p>
<p>does she have a crush on you or something? </p>
<p>i agree with glowingamy's advice</p>
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I saw a movie once with Shannon Doherty in it. She was a part of a band and had a group of friends she always hung out with. Then they asked this other girl to join them in the band. She started doing the same thing to Shannon Doherty's character. She then got totally insane, changed her hair color and style to match, clothes, and then name, then she stole the other chracters signature necklace and got rid of her. Started dating her boyfriend the whole deal, tried replacing her entirely. So at the end the whole group shunned the girl that was the cool one in the beginning and accepted the weirdo as a replacement. WEIRD!!
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<p>I've seen that movie a gabillion times and I love it.</p>
<p>Don't try to make the relationship any deeper. In fact, you might want to slowly giving her hints that you don't like her (let her down easy). Maybe even get her a boyfriend.</p>
<p>i was under the impression that haneen was a guy...and that since guys were approaching you (while you didn't seem to mind) maybe you were out of the closet...that went on for 5-10 mins till i realized that you weren't a guy...so yeah keep it up!</p>
<p>jackpotowner - same thing here...was extra confused when he, well she said she started to dress like him/her.</p>
<p>to give you good advice, we'll need your picture</p>
<p>why dont you try to 'weird' her out. why no try to copy her. the shift of attention, may jolt some sense into her. she may realize that shes not so bad off herself, with a pretty girl like you trying to be her (sry, so many pronouns, i know but i have no names to work with. 'weird girl' and 'popular girl' just doesn cut it). what harm could be done? she might get mad thinking you are making fun of her, but then after she throws her tantrum, you finally get a chance for a frank chat about her copying you. </p>
<p>i really dont know, ive never been so 'popular', but most importantly, just follow your heart. these advices are already so personalized and biased by the people who post them. just be yourself and im sure everything will work out. good luck and DONT let this bog you down. you have an admirer, be proud</p>
<p>wow, i blah a lot too :D</p>
<p>That does sound weird. If it annoys you that much just tell her that it makes you uncomfortable to be followed around. If it escalates to stalking then you should probably be talking to you advisor about what to do about this.</p>
<p>Things have been really bad with me lately.. the girl i have been talking about is being soo mean to me ,, yest we were together standing with another girl she knows. .three guys she know passed by and then she start introducing her friend and totally ignoring me.. she pulled her friend closer with the guys and start talking,, i felt she didnt want me so i left.. i ignored it and walked away,,, I felt so humilated...
another thing is theres a girl (i am gonna call her Amy) and her bf that lives in the same floor with me.. I start noticing her looking so weird when i talk to her bf.. i am nice to everyone but i never mean anything more. yest i went to eat breakfast alone and i saw them sitting together (the girl and her bf and another 2 ppl) so i decided to join them ..Amy looked like she was gonna slap me and she didnt take her eyes off me.. everyone noticed that.. there was an empty chair near her bf so i decided to grap a chair and sit on the opposite side.. i dont know why i did this but i dont want her to think i even think about her bf , her bf was like" what u dont wanna sit next me " and then i did ,, ofcourse he was being sarcastic and funny. but i could see she didnt take her eyes off me..
before u guys say anything, no i am not beautiful, and i am nothing ..totally nothing..and thats why its bothering me.. I feel so bad right now.. i dont know why.. i think the best thing is to ignore everyone on this floor and to pretend i never knew them. ..they all went to see movie and i pretended i was sick.. I feel everytime i do smthg they are watching me and misunderstanding every move i make,
i am not being paranoid or anything and i am not trying to say girls are jealous of me cuz i am getting attention..,, cuz i dont see anything special in me,, they are being paranoid and I dont know how to explain myself to them,,</p>
<p>shes a hater in disguise. shes probably mocking you when she tells you 'your so pretty.' its subtle. she sees you as a threat. she excluded you from the conversation to one-up on you as shes using all the power she can get to destroy you. i wouldn't be surprised if she slandered you to 'amy.' </p>
<p>either that or maybe she got caught up in the moment and simply forgot to introduce you cause shes playing host and is 'juggling' with four other people. i mean haven't you ever tried juggling that is a difficult thing to do.</p>
<p>also here is a quote i read from somewhere. </p>
<p>"Human beauty is a double-edge sword. Many beautiful teen-age girls feel that their relationships with both sexes are full of tension-men just want them for their bodies as if they did not have anything else of interest about them and other women are jealous that they will take their men away. Very attractive women often have trouble keeping their female friends. "</p>
<p>I don't mean to be rude, but it seems like you have a somewhat "high-schoolish" mentality. If you don't get along with these people, then don't hang out with them. You're obviously not being yourself trying to impress these people. I believe you go to USC and I'm sure that out of the other thousands of people, you'll find yourself a new crowd. All in all, drop them. You don't need these pathetic trifles, it's college.</p>
<p>there must be some "aspects" of your looks or personality that calls for attention/loving. im sure the "new" scent has worn out by now</p>
<p>I cant believe this is happening to me.. the weird girl (i am gonna call her Jesse) knocked my door in the morning, i opened the door and she asked me if i was busy ,, i was like no.. after 2 seconds she came with her labtop and her books and got into my room and closed the door (i have single).. i was shocked.. and she was like " u dont mind if i study here with u ,right" .before i said anything she jumped into my bed pretending she was reading.. i tried to explain to her that i cant study with anyone,, not even my sister.. but she didnt understand and she was like " instead of wasting ur time open ur book and study , i wont open my mouth i swear", i looked into my book and really i wanted to cry.. i was thinking why is this happening to me.. and i could see she was staring at me the whole time.. and then she told me " u inspire me, thats why i like u honey " yes she said honey, i have no idea what that meant!!! and then she pulled a nail polish from her bag and offered me to put some., i was like its nice but a little vulger for me. .she went mad and said " screw u.. i have it on my nails, does that mean i am vulger".. i was shocked and she laughed and then left..
A guy from the floor asked me later to get coffee with him, hes been so nice to me,, he always knock my door to make sure i ate and that everything is ok. and hes been noticing everything thats been happening . while we were walking he asked me if i was happy and i was like ya.. he aksed me if any of the girls are annoying me and i was like no, everything is ok.. he suddenely told me to stay away from jesse, he told me everyone has been notcing the way shes acting with me and the way she start dressing since i moved in and he was like " she is in deep depression and shes under serious medication" .. i couldnt speak.. i was shocked.. he told me how everyone on the whole buliding avoids her and she can be really annoying and he told me one time she shouted at him in one of the classrooms.. he told me when she loses her temper she screams.. i felt so sorry for her, but i cant let this happen to me.. he told me not to worry and just avoid her.. he was like she has serious problems and even her family dont want her.. i felt so bad for her... then he told me that one time he was in her bedroom and found a drawing she did with my face and name on .. he said she thinks i am soo beautiful and she wishes she was like me.. and then out of no where he told me that Amy hates me and she thinks i am a threat to her and that i want her bf.. he told me she had a huge fight with her bf after dinner and he was explaining to her that she should stop acting like a child.. i feel bad for causing all this troubles.. i dont want these ppl to hate me.. i explained to him and we talked for hours.. i never felt as relieved as i did with him.. i told him everything on my mind and i felt he was soo mature and he really made me feel great.. he told me the girls think that ever since i came here i start getting all the guys attention and they felt they were ingnored.. i dont feel i am the one whose acting "schoolish" or anything .. i think its the girls who are not being secure about themselves.. and i told this guy i didnt come to college to look for a bf and to waste my time on this stupied stuff.. i just hope things wil get better soon..</p>
<p>seriously get away from this girl, lock your doors, and take the long way to class.</p>
<p>lol holy crap this sounds like some teen movie gone horribly wrong</p>
<p>It sounds like this girl has some sort of personality disorder, on top of her depression. Something like narcissistic, histrionic, borderline, reactive attachment disorders.... You should make an appointment with the counselling services at your school and explain your situation with this girl. They might be able to put a name to what she has and explain what's going on inside her head. They can give you some advice for how to deal with her. But you should definitely go to a counsellor instead of just an RA or someone because they are trained to recognize these psychological illnesses and will have much more of a background in dealing with them.</p>
<p>If USC still has Help Line-consider calling the peer counselors for help. They might be able to direct you to someone with experience who will help. I would prefer you go to the counseling center for help dealing w/this person but Help Line might be easier for you. I agree with Staphable.</p>