<p>Completely depends on the relationship. Technically, it shouldn’t matter, because if the relationship is worth keeping you’ll keep it long distance. But it is easier to be together, and understandably I can see why someone will want to be with their SO. But the real question is, is that person a quick fling or someone you will be with for years to come? I think the two people truly know deep down whether that is true or not, and it is up to them. I would usually decide against it though, as many flings aren’t worth changing your future for. But then again, some are worth it. :)</p>
<p>If its real love and meant to last forever, then the location and distance of your school should not matter.</p>
<p>Your boyfriend probably won’t last through the first semester but your choice of college will remain with you for the rest of your life.</p>
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<p>Oh please. Let’s get real for a second.
- E-Harmony and Christian Mingle notwithstanding, no relationship is “meant” to be. What does that even mean? “Meant” by who or what? It feels like that when you’re in the “falling in love” stage. But then you get over it and reality sets in.<br>
- Nothing lasts “forever.” Even if you get married and have a great relationship, one of you is eventually going to die. (Actually, both of you are eventually going to die.) But my point is, when one of you dies, the survivor is likely going to have new relationships. That’s called being human.
- Relationships are hard work. They are ephemeral. They come and go. People change over time. What works in your teens is not likely to still be working in your 30’s. It’s ok. That’s life. That’s what keeps family law attorneys in business.</p>
<p>Sorry to burst your bubble.</p>
<p>DGDzDad will NOT be presenting at the Valentine’s festival this year. (smile)</p>
<p>DGDzDad, well done, as in cindered.</p>
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<p>Bah humbug. While we’re at it, can’t we just abolish Valentine’s Day? It just exists to make money for Hallmark, florists, candy shop owners, jewelers, and restaurants. It makes people who aren’t in a relationship depressed and puts pressure on those who are to figure out what to do. I just really, really DREAD Valentine’s Day. The only good Valentine’s Day of my 50-something year life was when I was engaged to my current (3rd and last) wife and presented her with my Valentine’s gift, which was her name in a heart tattooed on a part of my body that does not get much sunlight. And you thought I was not a romantic!</p>
<p>I, on the other hand, never understood the need to have but one day when we celebrate eros. There’s never been a day in my life when I received flowers or candy or a card (I’ve never rec’d a tattoo, DGDzDad, might be a generational thing) that I wasn’t tickled pink.</p>
<p>If you’re boyfriend hasn’t already decided on a school, then why don’t you look at schools together? If you’re really committed to each other, then you should be able to find a school that both of you like.</p>
<p>My HS girlfriend was a year younger. Against the will of her parents, she switched schools and programs at the last minute to go to my university. She got the “we aren’t paying for it” from them. She worked, took loans and payed for it herself. I graduated and got a job in a large city that would allow her to do her graduate work there. She graduated, we got married, and she finished her graduate work. That was 24 years and 2-kids ago. </p>
<p>Should a relationship affect where you go to school? Probably not. We would not advise our 18 yo daughter to do the same (luckily, she has no boyfriend). If you feel strongly about it, it’s not going to matter what others say though.</p>
<p>It is a TERRIBLE decision, esp. considering that the VAST majority of relationships between two teenagers don’t last much time, let alone the four years of college.</p>
<p>Absolutely not. I do not believe you should base where you are going to college on where your boyfriend is going. You have to look out for yourself and your future. If your relationship is strong, then the time apart can only make it stronger. I can understand why you would want to follow your boyfriend, but I can tell you that the most important thing is your education so that you will never have to rely on someone to take care of you, you will be able to take care of yourself. And, you do not want to ever have a day where you look back and (if you’re still together), resent him because you did not ultimately go to the college of your choice.</p>
<p>Choosing your college based on a h.s. romance is a bad idea. Would you still want to go to that college if the relationship ends? It is much the same as choosing a college because your friends go there. Your circle of fiends will probably change once at college as you meet a large number of people for all over the country. You should choose a college due to the field of study you plan to follow not h.s. friends or relationships.</p>
<p>If it is a selective college, what happens if one of you gets accepted and the other doesn’t? Would the romance end at that point?</p>
<p>I have tried a couple of long distance relationships, and I now believe they cannot work. If you want to stay with your mate, I think going to the same school is the only chance, or 2 schools in the same area so you can see each other on a regular basis.</p>
<p>I’ve seen one of the tougher scenarios of going to college with a boyfriend when my niece, who went to the same school as her long-term boyfriend, had to suffer his falling in love with her best college “friend”. DN was so heartbroken that she ended up transferring to another school after a semester of emotional h*ll. There was no way to avoid seeing him with the other girl…and it was even worse because he had gone off with someone she had thought was a good friend. </p>
<p>I ended up marrying a boy from high school. We went to colleges located within two hours of each other. With the benefit of hindsight it was perfect. We spent a lot of weekends together but if the relationship hadn’t withstood the test of time the new reality would not have been in our faces 24/7. An added bonus was that we were not overly dependent on one another. We each created lives at our respective schools and were not joined at the hip. Purely anecdotal but it was good for us.</p>
<p>It depends on the couple and I believe the size of the university or college. My D and her bf are going to separate colleges, but will only be about 40 miles apart. Both toured multiple schools and these were the top two picks for them. They both will be participating in collegiate sports so they will see each other on a limited basis. I think this will be the best of both worlds for them. They will be close enough to date but will still have their own “space” to become independent as they mature.</p>
<p>Honestly, I think that it should be a consideration, not a deciding factor. Research the school and schools in the area. If, say, your significant other is going to BU in Boston, you might be interested in it, you might find that Emmanuel, BC, or UMass Boston is a better fit. Look into schools close enough to get together frequently, apply to one or multiple that are good for you if there are any, and if you get into near and far universities that seem right, let it be the first factor after finances.</p>
<p>unless you’re going to marry him/her forget about it…</p>
<p>Your education should come before any HS relationship. A good education can do way more for you. DO NOT MAKE YOUR COLLEGE DECISION BASED ON YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP. BIG MISTAKE!!!</p>
<p>Unless the school your boyfriend/girlfriend is attending has always been that dream school of yours that you have always known you were going to, then I would avoid going to the same school as him/her. Be your own person and discover yourself in college (as clich</p>