<p>I have a teacher whose kids got into Harvard and Columbia, and he said that he’d rather drown in loans than deprive his kids of ivy educations. It’s kind of crazy and naive, but it’s your decision as to how willing you are to let got of your money. You’d rather not come out with debt, so you’d be better off in that aspect with Rutgers.
As to getting away from them, you can always dorm there, get the full dorm experience, and still visit parents every other weekend if they really want you to.</p>