<p>This girl that I like, she goes back and forth on whether she likes me, is spending two weeks in Israel. Her big thing is that she likes having to chase guys, so that's what I started making her do over break, chase me. Right before she left, she included me in an email of people she's really close to the number that she'll be able to be reached at while in Israel. She also told me during one of our last conversations before she left to call her. Should I though? Or do you think not talking to her over that 2 week span will make her miss me more?</p>
<p>Under the circumstances (she can’t decide if she likes you or not and likes to play head games), I wouldn’t call her. If she wants to talk, let her call you. Otherwise wait until she gets back to school and if you want to play these games with her, then call her.</p>
<p>Don’t call her.</p>
<p>don’t be dumb, call her</p>
<p>Oh great, girls that like to play games. I used to like girls that did that. You should call her but you should make sure you’re smarter than her at playing games (date games i mean). If she’s bossing you around, you’re going to be miserable.</p>
<p>Call her at the number towards the end of the trip, and make it a short call because you have to go do something.</p>
<p>This sounds like its going nowhere. Girl likes stringing you along for attention.</p>
<p>Call, don’t call - it doesn’t matter. Even if you don’t call, she’ll simply contact you after some time to goad you into giving her attention again, and you will likely respond promptly (or after a day or two, it really doesn’t matter).</p>
<p>I would go after other girls - better girls. The fact that you’re even microanalyzing calling or not calling some girl you haven’t even slept with ---- well I think you’re a little too into this girl at the moment, and she probably has you right where she wants you. Attached to her emotionally, but nowhere in the vacinity of her vaj.</p>
<p>But---- I could be wrong, and if you feel the compulsive need to see where things might go with her (for better or worse to your ego) — wait til she gets back, call her up to do something, and then try to make out with her (or something similar). This will give you your answer.</p>
<p>I totally agree with the people who are pointing out the game playing aspect here. If you’re with her you’ll always have to play them. It’s exhausting and frustrating and not worth it. Find someone who isn’t into this kind of ********, it’s so much easier and you’ll be so much happier.</p>
<p>Get drunk and do it. Make it totally confusing. Make her be the one confused and wondering if she should calling / obssessing over you.</p>
<p>This will never work out. A relationship will never work. If you want a fling, hit it and quit it. And soon. Because she will move to someone else. She just wants attention.</p>
<p>What everyone else is saying. A viable candidate for a girlfriend wouldn’t play these games with you… you wouldn’t have to contemplate whether or not you should call her.</p>
<p>Be a man and make a move on her. If it doesn’t work…ignore her for the rest of your time in college.</p>
<p>don’t have the balls to call her? text her.</p>
<p>Not so much about having the balls or not to call her, more about whether or not I’d be playing the game right if I call her. I mean the way it went down this year was me liking her, her rejecting me, me moving on getting with other girls, her liking me, me deciding to give it another try, her missing the rest of the semester, but at some point while she was sick, deciding she wants “to have to chase me” as her best friend put it, i started ignoring her, so she started begging me to hang out, even looked up my home address, then when i asked her to hang out she was like eh i just got back from the football game/dinner with my dad (her parents are divorced) so i think i’m gonna stay home for the night, then she asked if she could come over for christmas (she went to private jewish school her whole life so she’s never seen a real christmas), I told her no because we weren’t having it at my house this year, but the real reason was i didn’t want to introduce her to my family as “hey this is ______ we kissed once or twice and I’ve slept over in her bed, but other than that we’re platonic friends” cause that would be ridiculous. Clearly when she sees she can’t have me though she realizes she’s losing something good (not being cocky but a few of her friends even tried to pursue me before I got involved with her) and becomes attached to me, unfortunately her getting a serious infection messed that up the first time, so now I’m just trying to play the game to get it back to that point.</p>
<p>Are you having fun playing these games? Seems like its taking up a lot of time. First off, don’t center your life around a girl or one thing because your gonna feel horrible if that situation turns bad and you centered your whole life around her. I think you should call her or attempt to call her once(just to be polite), but make it a quick casual conversation like that one dude said. And if you cant get through just say “oh yeah I tried calling you but something…”. But don’t make this situation bigger than it is…</p>
<p>John Butler – reread what you wrote in your second post. If you want more of this game playing then call her. If you’re tired of it then forget about her and find someone who won’t treat you like this.</p>
<p>John Butler – Read THE RULES == then you will understand and can decide if you want to play…</p>
<p>Call and hang up. Don’t answer when she continuously calls back. Tehehe!</p>
<p>this is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. just call her. jeez, when did electronic communication become so complicated? if you want to talk to someone call them!</p>
<p>Yes, and sticking peen into vaj is not complicated either.</p>
<p>Oh wait, there are social rules and a truckload of expectations attached? Oh, I forgot about those.</p>
<p>I agree that calling someone is not complicated - but there are certain considerations and this girl seems like she loves playing games and being a cocktease, big time.</p>
<p>Would be easier to find a girl who actually wants to have sex with you IMHO instead of throwing time and effort into this energy vampire. But, you haven’t told us that much so maybe things will happen b/w you. If that’s the case, I would make a move quickly to find out.</p>