<p>Hey everyone. I'm in a tough situation and wanted other peoples' opinions. My father just passed away last week. I am supposed to be leaving for college on September 5th to a school that is about 2 and a half hours away from home. </p>
<p>I feel like I should defer my admission for one semester just all these family problems settle down a bit. If I move out, it will just be my mother and 13 year old sister living home by themselves. I'm a guy and it bugs me knowing that there wouldn't be any man around the house to help out. I could probably take courses at a local college for a semester. However, I don't want to end up regretting either possibility (moving out or defering a semester). Can anyone give me their opinions/help me out? thanks</p>
<p>Have you talked it over with your mom? And what kind of community do you live in? Is it one where other families are willing to help out in difficult situations? If so, your mom and sister should be just fine. My mom was just fine with me and my sister on her own when our parents got divorced, and it’s not the same kind of loss but it still is a loss of one parent.</p>
<p>Also, how are you feeling in dealing with your father’s death? Are you okay to go into adjusting to a new life and a regular courseload? I would say try talking to a counselor, whether it’s your GC from high school or maybe someone at your college.</p>
<p>If your main concern is having a man around the house, though, women are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves, and your mom and sister will be fine in that respect. And I presume they both have good friends who can help them through anything if they need it.</p>
<p>2 and a half hours away from home, particularly if you will have a car, is not too bad either. It’s not so far away that you can’t drive home for a weekend if you’re absolutely needed.</p>
<p>Good luck and I’m sorry to hear about your loss.</p>
<p>I suggest definitely discussing it with your mother. Also do you have other relatives that live in the area? That will ease it a little.</p>
<p>Also consider which would be best for you emotionally? Will you be better off jumping right into college? Or would you like more time before something else in your life completely changes?</p>
<p>And I don’t really know why you would regret defering for a semester in the grand scheme of things. Is it the (typical CC) mentality that something might not look good to schools/jobs later on? If it is, there is no one who would think less of you for doing this. If anything they will think more of you. Is it missing out on the typical college experience? Because that will still be there waiting for you.</p>
<p>It’s really nice to see a guy who cares this much about his family.</p>