<p>I went through recruitment freshman year because I was part of an organization in high school that focused on sisterhood and creating friendships so I thought a sorority would be perfect for me in college. I also heard good things from older girls I know that were involved in Greek life. </p>
<p>I ended up getting cut from the sororities that I really liked and ended up with a bid from a sorority that was not my top choice. I am still in the new member period and I haven't fallen in love yet. I haven't clicked with people in my PC and the sister's haven't been overwhelmingly welcoming. Some were even rude to me. I just don't feel as excited or happy about it as other girls I've met, both in this sorority and others. I get anxiety when I think about it but some days I like it and other days I HATE it. I feel I would be a better fit in another chapter but they cut me during recruitment.</p>
<p>I'm wondering if it's first semester jitters or if I should just cut my losses and depledge. If I depledge, should I rerush my sophomore year? What are the odds of getting a bid from a sorority that cut me the year before?</p>
<p>Hummmmmm… IMO and from the experiences my DS had and discussed with me; it sounds like you should move on. If in your heart you know your in the wrong place then move on. Holding on to what may be a false hope is not what you want. This might give you and overall bad taste and cause bad feelings overall for school and sorority life. You would not be fair to yourself at all.</p>
<p>It may be in your best interest to go back to the sororitiy that as you say “cut” you and discuss your continued interest (if thats what you want). Let them know you will try again and be more prepared the next time. </p>
<p>What is in your heart is what should drive you not what one might have to offer for a thought. Although advise is very important in the end only you will know. </p>
<p>I can tell you that my DS went through this in his first semester and was a bid but in the end he did not feel it was right. He waited for the 2nd semester in in between that time he did a little research into all the greek life. In the end he went with a house that was perfect for his personality. </p>
<p>You have plenty of time and choices. Again, do not settle if this is not in your heart. Wait, research and find what fits you best. You have a half of a semester to think and research. Why be pained over a possible failure when you can captalize on the failure and find what it best for you. You have 3.5 years left…IMO move on but only you can give the final thought.</p>
<p>?? Which sororitie is it ?? I’ll talk to my DS and ask him what he thinks and which sororitie might be good. Yea, yea, yea, he is a guy but he will know, he is right in the mix of things up there and very involved.</p>
<p>Remember one thing these sororities need recruitment numbers and the money it pulls in. They need people more than you know. Research, research, research it’s all on the internet.</p>
<p>Thanks so much for telling me your son’s story. I’m just worried that this is all a “grass is always greener on the other side” situation. I don’t want to back out and then regret it. I am just so torn!!</p>