I am sophomore in college and I am really having a hard time making friends. I am also a introvert which doesn’t help at all. I try to find people my freshman year but it didn’t work out because it was mostly about school. I am in this service frat since freshman year and I try but no one seems interested or even wants to talk to me. I try to get involved in other stuff like sororities and business frats but almost all of the sororities rejected me and all of the business frats. I did talk to people in my class and I asked this one girl to lunch but she said no and I think I should just give up honestly if I made it without friends for 3 semester I think I can make it the rest of college but I want to know what you guys think I should do?
So sorry to hear this! Friendships are especially hard for introverts. You are doing the right things by joining organizations, so don’t give up. I recommend going to counseling. It sounds like you may have a little bit of social anxiety that makes it especially difficult, and people may be sensing that. A counselor could really help you develop strategies for dealing with that stress. In the meantime, focus on you - go to the gym, eat healthy, and stay positive. I recall after moving to a new town having a really hard time making friends, so I focused on making acquaintances instead. Just took the pressure off and tried to find something interesting about each person I met. Over time, some of the acquaintances actually did become friends.
Do you have a church group you’d like to be part of? Many have doughnut Sundays or spaghetti dinners that are designed for socializing. How about getting a job?
My daughter is extremely social, liked her freshman roommate, has a good (guy) friend from the dorm, but he wanted to date and she didn’t. She didn’t make her ‘solid, forever’ friend until she went on study abroad her junior year. Don’t give up, don’t expect instant friendship every time you meet someone. Keep going to your clubs and activities. Keep asking people to lunch (that’s very brave of you).
It’s easier to find friends in smaller classes…try that. I understand your frustration, and I didn’t make any friend until my junior years where I had chances to know people better through group projects and whatnot. Don’t fret.