Hi I’m 18. I’m a junior in high school. When I go to college I’m wondering what a party will be like ? Is it a frat one or just one at somebody’s house ? I want to go once because I want to have fun and try something new. To be honest I’m a little nervous and a little happy at the same time. People say you go to have fun.
Who should I talk to ? What should I say ? Help for future reference.
Also I’m a girl btw.
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Wait I’ll still going there But where do I find Friends or a boyfriend in college ?
All the exact same ways you did in high school, except now you’ll be living in really close proximity to people too
Parties with alcohol are high risk environments for naive freshwomen. Sexual predators may go there and use the freshwomens’ inexperience with alcohol to entice them to get too drunk to resist rape. They may also try to add date rape drugs to victims’ drinks while they are not looking.
If you decide you want to, obviously there are precautions you should take. It’s easier and safer if you’re in a sorority, since you’ll get to know fraternity members through swaps and socializing with older sisters who know them, and your sorority will have groups who go to these parties anyway and you’ll be with others. Make sure you have a DD if you plan to drink. Unopened bottles and cans are the safest - avoid jungle juice.
If you’re a girl, odds are you’ll just be able to walk in, but it’s always better to know someone there. Make friends the same way you do now: classes, neighbors, organizations. Don’t force trying to get a boyfriend. Let it happen organically the same way you do friendships. If you become friends with someone in a fraternity, that’s one way to “get in” to a party, but the easiest and most natural way is just knowing someone who knows someone there and is going. Don’t worry about it too much.
I’ll probably be the voice of dissent on this thread haha but I enjoy going to frat parties, I take the necessary precautions, and I only go to the parties of the fraternities that I’m close to because I’ve become friends with the brothers. Don’t get sloppy drunk, in general, but if you’re safe then it’s a very fun time.
Yea I would definitely stay away from jungle juice also because you’re going to have a gnarly hangover the next day. They always use crappy vodka like Taka or Vitali (cheap, plastic handle) and when you combine that with the sugary stuff in the juice and the inevitable lack of proper hydration it’s a great way to turn 1 night into an unproductive hungover weekend 
Also yes, I would imagine it’s super rare to get turned away if you’re a girl, especially if you’re with a group of girls. Even when I was in high school we would go to the local frat parties and we would always get in (I’m a guy but was friends with a lot of girls)
There have been a lot of fake posts by newbies on this site lately. I’m thinking this is one of them.
Could be, but the advice on this thread could still help someone who legitimately has the same questions.
Why would people be fake posting? I don’t see what would be in it for them.
My guess is they are bored teenagers still on break.
Only drink sealed bottles/can drinks or if the mixed drink is made in front of you. And always go with at least one friend.
Oh, @philbegas… you have no idea. Hang around for a while. There are peaks and valleys in the “not real” post volume, but they definitely happen.
My advice to you is to not have your first drinking experience at a frat party, or any big party as a matter of fact. Your best bet is to try it out in small setting, like with a few friends or a chill hangout if you haven’t before since you really don’t want to be that person who can’t control themselves at a party. Drink from unopened drinks/drinks that you’ve seen being poured for you. Go with some friends and try your best to stick together. Basically, this is advice for any major party you might go to in high school or college.
As for the rest of the stuff aside from drinking - don’t worry about it too much. First of all, you’ve got at least a year and a half until your first college party. It’s a little early to start worrying about what you would say or do.
Parties in college are held at all kinds of different venues. If the college you attend has Greek life, then fraternities do often throw parties. At many colleges, the fraternities have their own physical houses and so they throw parties in or near them. However, some colleges don’t have houses for all of their fraternities, and some fraternities may choose to throw some or all of their parties not in their house. So those parties may be held at event venues (on-campus or off). Some of them have suites on campus in the residence halls and they throw them there. Some of them have no alcohol at all - a fraternity on the campus I went to grad school on never offered any alcohol at their parties. When I went to go to the pre-check before their parties they were usually setting up live music. Sometimes they are closed (small, invite-only parties, occasionally done with the members of maybe one other sorority) and sometimes they are open (anyone…sort of…can go).
But there are soooooo many other kinds of parties other than fraternity parties. College students throw parties for all kinds of reasons, including no reason at all. They could be a small 8-person get together in someone’s suite/dorm room; a party that takes over an entire dorm; a blow-out off campus at a bar somewhere or anywhere in between. Some have alcohol and some don’t. Some are even college-sanctioned parties or college-sponsored. At my campus, lots of people moved off campus after their sophomore year and so they started to have house parties. There were also lots of parties at clubs since Atlanta has a big club culture. There are parties where the music is so loud you can’t even attempt to talk to anyone, and parties where they’re playing soft music and the point is to mix and mingle and chat.
Whatever you like, you can probably find a party to suit your personality.
You can talk to whoever you want. You should probably start by introducing yourself. College students have pretty standard introductory questions that make talking easy (What’s your major? What classes are you taking this semester? Where are you from? What dorm do you live in? How do you like Our College so far?) But just basically be a decent human being, as I am sure you are, and you should be fine 
Join clubs and organizations to meet like-minded people.
D opted for smaller get togethers verus frat parties. She lived in a suite first year which was a bit isolating. However, she got a campus job where she met new people. She’s dated a bit. Usually friend of a friend thing.
S lives in a typical freshman dorm. He said it helped with meeting people. He played an IM sport and joined the ski club. S talked about movie nights in the floor lounge and his RA organizing activities.
This is the second thread you’ve posted about this. Stop worrying about it. You meet people the exact same way you did in high school. That means classes, sports, clubs, organizations, work, etc. Except now you’ll be living with people in close proximity so it’s even easier to go hang out with them.
It’s also not incredibly important to have a bf/gf in college don’t force it. If you meet someone you’re into, then ask them out exactly the same as in high school.
Through friends of friends. Be active, make friends, it will happen.