If you truly do not want to go to your graduation because you don’t want to deal with the crowds, the Pomp & Circumstance, the ceremony, then don’t go.
If you don’t want to go because you are upset that someone, who hasn’t attended your school, is “robbing you” of your “award” by coming in and taking your limelight, then don’t go. That will show them! Your choice.
The only persons who will notice your absence is your family. Sad that you’re not considering their feelings. A high school graduation is a celebration of the students. It’s not your personal ceremony, nor your time to gloat and say, “look at me!” The other students are not going to miss your presence and you wont cause any regret on the part of the Principal. Mathematically, that student has higher stats. No one said life is fair.
Graduation is a time when every student has balloons, cards, decorated caps, and favorite grandmas and grandpas celebrating multiple student achievements.
You don’t need to go, and honestly, the other students wont care because it is their time; you wont be missed. It’s all about your class. The admitting colleges don’t care if you go to your high school graduation. Why should they?
Our son, and four of his friends, were told by the principal’s office that their grades were being calculated to see who the valedictorian would be at the ceremony. This was the week of graduation.
They didn’t know until it was announced at the ceremony.
Down the street, the other neighborhood high school had 16 valedictorians.
Did our top 5 care? No. They wanted to be down on the field with their friends with the beach balls and bubbles. In the end, our son attended his top 10 choice.
After the ceremony:
- The “Valedictorian” thought he was in at MIT but he wasn’t aware that he missed a required science course, so they had to call him and “rescind” the admission.
- The Salutatorian was not decided. The math was too close.
So, assuming #2 student, his parents assumed that he would receive great funding at a top 25, and they hadn’t saved anything, so he attended a local in-state.
- The other 2 students attended in-state universities after only applying to Top 20’s and being denied admission. They didn’t apply to safeties.
If you’re going to go onto a college/university, get used to not being number one. Everyone there is sharp, competitive and gifted. There is always someone smarter, faster and better than anyone. It’s not a time to pout and complain, showing your true self. Not a good sendoff, in my opinion.