Should I move home?! Need advice

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<p>Currently I'm a freshman in college. I live in Boston and go to a private catholic college about a half hour away. I got into all of the cheaper state schools I applied to but because I got into the one I'm attending now & it's better than all the other ones I got into, my mom really wanted me to be able to go here, even though it is WAY out of our price range.</p>

<p>I am living here, but thinking of moving home second semester. First of all, it would save money. Second of all, I just really don't like dorming. I have been home every weekend and yes I have still managed to make friends. However, as the semester has gone on they have distanced themselves from me.. I'm assuming cause I go home? I am just not comfortable living here and would just be much happier living at home or in an apartment (which is out of the question right now). My mom has taken out the loans for me to go here, and I know if she has to do this for all 4 years she will be in a lot of debt probably for the rest of her life. She really wanted me to get the full college experience, since she wasn't able to do that. I appreciate all she's doing for me but when it's an extra $15,000 a year to live on campus, which I don't even like doing, I just don't think it's worth it. I may try to transfer after this year depending on how well the rest of the year goes but as for next semester I really want to move home and wanted to get some advice on what you would do in my position. </p>

<p>My mom doesn't want me to move home. I think she thinks the only reason I want to move home is because of my boyfriend, who is still in high school. That's false, because he pushed me to live at school and do what I wanted. I've been seeing him every weekend anyways, so it's a lot more than that. It just isn't for me. I am not a partier or a drinker, so I think that may have something to do with it. If I move home I'll have to get a job and try to pay my own car insurance. I was awarded a work study in my financial aid package but have not been hired anywhere on campus. My school also doesn't have a lot of commuters. I don't know the exact numbers but I know most people live here. </p>

<p>With all that said, I just wanted to get advice on what I should do. The school is very expensive so saving money is ideal. They also don't give out a lot of financial aid so I doubt I'd get more next year... I could transfer to a state school later but my mom also doesn't want me to do that because she wants me to be able to go to a really good school. (I know there are plenty of good state schools, we just never thought I'd get into the school I'm now attending) My dad isn't paying for my tuition, as my parents aren't together. Any thoughts?&lt;/p>

<p>Ps, I'm going to try to start going home every other weekend instead of every weekend because people are becoming very cliquey. I feel like I am losing the friends I made in the beginning because I go home.</p>

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<p>It doesn’t make sense to pay $15000 a year when you only live 30 minutes away, if I were you I would convince your mom it’s not worth the money.</p>

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<p>Sit down with your mom and look at the cost of living at campus. Then show how you can save that (at least this year; who knows, maybe you want to live near campus next year and away from home!) and use it for something else that would mean a lot to your family.</p>

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<p>The financial considerations are important but your academic performance should determine what to do. If you are more comfortable living at home, do so, however try to find some way to still participate in campus life as much as possible. In my 30 years as a student advisor, I have noticed that commuter students often are at a disadvantage unless they still spend most of their time on campus, even on weekends. The contacts you make in college are going to be valuable to you in the future, even as soon as your Junior and Senior years when you might need to find study groups.</p>

<p>That being said, some students can do very well commuting and relieving the financial burden on your mother might make your studies less stressful.</p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

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<p>Since you live only 30 minutes away commuting shouldn’t be a problem. What you should do is lay out the costs for your mom. Show her the opportunity cost of staying at college ($15,000, strained relationships, unhappiness etc.) and show her what the benefits are as well (more active on campus, more opportunities etc.) If you show her this in an objective manner she will be more likely to listen to you (at least most people are). Explain that you will actually be getting more out of college using this method.
@xraymancs; One solution for winnie924 is for them to drive to networking events, parties etc. around campus. This way they would be around for the wekends rather than always coming home. If they spent the weekdays with family they would be able to spend more time with their friends over the weekend, thus they have better relationships and their general quality of life would improve.</p>

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<p>I just realized this thread is 8 months old… @Lahen11 why did you resurrect it?</p>