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When my son was home earlier this summer he never seemed to get together with his friends until at least 10 pm. I 'm not seeing this as a red flag at all.</p>
<p>If memory serves, there are actually a few states where 19, not 18, is the age of majority (not drinking age). I believe Alabama and Nebraska are 19, while Mississippi and Puerto Rico are 21.</p>
<p>I had to research this once, but it was a while ago, so it’s possible that has changed.</p>
<p>Yes, you are right about Alabama. You can’t even buy cold medicine until 19. It’s the law. You can’t even open a bank account without a parent signing for you or sign a consent form for certain campus activities…it’s in the parents’ hands.</p>
<p>I’m afraid Suzy 100 is speaking without checking the facts. This is NOT company policy…this is state law in Alabama…check the facts. As I said, they cannot legally buy cold medicine, sign a college consent form, open a bank account, or sign a contract. I know this is law for a fact. Just for fun the campus had a “bouncy house” outside one of the dorms once. Believe it or not, parental consent is required by law until 19.</p>
<p>Here is a brief blurb about it:</p>
<p>(The age of majority for signing contracts is 18 in most states, except Alabama and Nebraska, where it is 19, and Indiana, Mississippi, New York and Puerto Rico, where it is 21. For child support purposes, the age of majority is 18 in most states, 19 in Alabama, Colorado, Maryland and Nebraska, and 21 in D.C., Indiana, Mississippi, and New York,</p>
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<p>I think this thread has proven very strongly that everyone has a different dynamic with their kids in the young adult range. I think that might be one reason to leave well enough alone and punish your own kid and leave it at that. It’s a dangerous arena to choose not to mind your own business in. The fact that other peoples kids are drinking underage is not your problem-- the fact that your daughter let them into your house is your problem and you don’t need the other kids parents to address that.</p>
<p>Not a parent, but given MY family dynamic, if someone had called to tell on me at 18-19 it would have been about as appropriate as someone calling some of your parents to tell on you for something.</p>
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At what age can you marry your cousin? :D</p>
<p>Sorry-- JK</p>
<p>What you don’t seem to grasp is that the law is not optional or open to discussion based on one’s parenting preference or style. There are very real consequences for serving alcohol or allowing it to be served to another person’s child under the age of 21 which IS the age of legal consent in many states.</p>
<p>Stop signs and speed limits aren’t suggestions either. Failure of the majority of the people to stop doesn’t negate the law or one’s responsibility to follow it. It really isn’t open to personal interpretation.</p>
<p>Never tried, so I’m not sure.:)</p>
<p>Okay folks, I’ve been up for way too long and I’m going to bid you all goodnight and leave the discussion for another day.</p>
<p>Good night all.:)</p>
<p>So, honest question, bama, not that it would ever affect me, but since my H was “orphaned” at 17, what do emancipated teens or independent young adults under age 19 DO if they need cold medicine or a bank account? Would my H have HAD to get adopted by an older sister or aunt or someone, just to get by? Do young adults without parents keep their money in mattresses instead of bank accounts? And who would have signed his college permission slips before he turned 18? I’m seriously asking because surely there is something besides zero tolerance on things like this. Or maybe a black market in cold medicine and saving accounts…</p>
<p>But now that I think about it, with my younger D planning on going to college in another state and won’t be 18 until well into her first semester, I’d better read up on this stuff.</p>
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Yes, you are right about Alabama. You can’t even buy cold medicine until 19
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<p>**At what age can you marry your cousin? **</p>
<p>Hmmmm, well what do you know? In Alabama, you can marry your cousin when you turn 18. :D</p>
<p>[Code</a> of Alabama - Title 30: Marital and Domestic Relations - Section 30-1-5 - Consent of parents and bond required for marriage of certain minors - Legal Research](<a href=“http://law.onecle.com/alabama/marital-and-domestic-relations/30-1-5.html]Code”>http://law.onecle.com/alabama/marital-and-domestic-relations/30-1-5.html)
[Human</a> Services](<a href=“http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/human-services/state-laws-regarding-marriages-between-first-cousi.aspx;]Human”>http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/human-services/state-laws-regarding-marriages-between-first-cousi.aspx;) [Alabama</a> Marriage Laws > Alabama Marriage License, AL](<a href=“http://alabama.usmarriagelaws.com/]Alabama”>http://alabama.usmarriagelaws.com/)</p>
<p>I guess it is important for students to research each state law before applying.</p>
<p>sseamom - wonder if it would be against state law to ship cold medicines across state lines.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure they’ve moved cold medicines behind the counter in MI and you have to provide ID to purchase it and sign a log to make sure you’re not buying it in large quantities for the purpose of making meth… pretty sure you have to be 18 to purchase. However, it’s not like it’s illegal to POSESS cold medicine under 18, I think they just make it harder for minors to buy in the store. And in our case, you can buy some cold medicines without ID… just not the ones that contain psuedophedrine(?). Of course those are the ones you want, but it is what it is…</p>
<p>Some states have really draconian drinking laws. I had a friend whose daughter went out for lunch with a friend. They each had a glass of wine. They each paid for their own meal. friend’s daughter was over 21, the daughter’s friend was 20. My friends daughter was accused of providing drink for a minor - even though she had no idea how old her friend was, and hadn’t even paid for the drink.</p>
<p>true about alabama and cold medicine… contracts: i had to sign son’s first housing contract when he was 18… last year didnt have to sign it.</p>
<p>In Pa. Sons 21yr old friend went into a store and bought two cases of beer. On his way back home he ran into his 20yr old roommate. Roommate offers to carry one case. Police stopped and carded them. 21 yr old got a furnishing minor charge . Not sure if 20 yr old charged.</p>
<p>Pennsylvania underage laws are really tough. Minors (under age 21) found to be in the presence of alcohol are charged with minor in possession (i believe that’s the charge) and lose their drivers licenses. Friend’s son was standing in a group in a park (legally at a paid for camp site, talking quietly). There was a bottle of rum nearby, owned by one person, who admitted it was his. The seal had been cracked. There was no question that anyone had consumed any alcohol. The police officer admitted as much. He didn’t even breathalize them, but every kid in the group was cited for disorderly conduct, which was considered to be a minor citation. The police officer was “cutting them a break” by not citing the entire group for possession. A lawyer was consulted, who questioned the police officer on behalf of the kids because there had been no disorderly conduct, under the PA definition. The officer stated that if the kids pled not guilty to the disorderly conduct citation he would then charge them with minor in possession. They did a PBJ/community service/alcohol ed. route.</p>
<p>Sseamoom</p>
<p>A guardian would be appointed to someone under 19 since that is the age of consent or a person could become legally emancipated through the court. Becoming emancipated; however, this doesn’t provide the person with the rights of a legal adult such as purchasing or consuming alcohol. Until then, no cold medicine for you. You’re right, these are all things we parents should research when our children plan to attend school out of state. We simply packed a medical supply box for our daughter with small quantities of what she might need and kept it stocked as needed throughout the year.</p>
<p>Eastcoast,</p>
<p>Georgia’s law is pretty much the same. You’ll lose your license automatically for a minor in possession charge (under 21) and there are stiff penalties for providing it as well. And kids must complete ADAP (alcohol and drug awareness program) before getting their license in addition to driver’s ed or they can’t get it at 16. Now they can’t even get their license on their 16th birthday anyway because state law requires they hold a learner’s permit for a minimum of a year and a day. Now that law is really stupid in my opinion.</p>
<p>Ema- it’s only some cold meds… I’m not sure what the ingredient is. Also, I’ve noticed that if I go up north to small pharmacies, they don’t tend to have those restrictions. It makes me wonder if it’s a state law or company policy since down in SE Michigan, I only shop at national chain stores. </p>
<p>And this thread makes me glad I grew up in Michigan rather than some other states. I could not imagine making my parents still sign for me at 18+. We were WAY beyond ready to have me officially be a legal adult well before 18.</p>
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<p>The quote above regarding New York only applies to certain types of trusts, not contracts in general. </p>
<p>As a native-born New Yorker, I never had to have my parents sign any contracts on my behalf. </p>
<p>Once I was 18, I was considered of age to sign contracts and to be held accountable without parental involvement…and I’ve signed many contracts ranging from employment to starting my own banking account in New York. </p>
<p>Just saying you’re severely overstating the case regarding New York law where 18 IS the age of majority for most things except drinking.</p>