Since I was a transfer student I was unable to get into the roommate search system before almost everyone else at my college did so I just choose roommates that said they had similar schedules as me. When I moved in I got along with one of my roommates just fine for the first week. He never wanted to go to any events at the college and only ever went for a meal with me once. 2 days before classes started my other roommate came who I quickly found out had skipped past changing the default answers on his profile so it turns out his schedule is so different then mine. Over a few weeks they started to become more and more distant with me and have now reached the point where they don’t even talk to me unless they absolutely have to. My roommates have became best friends and now go everywhere together and have never asked me if I wanted to go with them. My second roommate brings his extremely loud friends over at night and plays games in our living room blasting the volume. They don’t really care that I would rather sleep at 1:00 in the morning rather then yell and wrestle each other around the apartment. They are also slobs and never clean up after themselves act like I should clean up after them. I’m barely ever there since I’m either in class or at the computer lab for almost all of the day, but they still act like I should clean up after them. I know they talk about me behind my back to their friends because I heard them when I was leaving the apartment one day.
Usually the first person to claim the apartment has to be the one to set up paying rent/utilities and get the internet set up but I ended up having to be the one.
Should I try to get a roommate change since they’re keeping me up late at night and generally disregarding me even though I control the bill payments and internet? This is the first time i’ve ever had roommates since I went to community college for 2 years prior to this.
Are they bringing friends over M-Sun or is this only a weekend thing? Have you tried to establish a chore schedule that states who does what chores on what days of the week?
They have friends over all the time now. We had to fill out a roommate “bill of rights” that said when things needed to be done and they didn’t take it seriously. The only chore is to empty the trash, but they somehow manage to fill 3 medium to large sized trash cans by themselves in 2-3 days.
I forgot to mention my second roommate is currently dating my apartment complexes RA so I can’t go to her for a unbiased opinion.
Since I’m assuming that you have been assigned to that apartment complex by the University itself, you should be able to request to be assigned with different people/moved to a different area. Personally, if I were you, I would look into doing it if your roommates aren’t going to respect the rules you tried to set out and are affecting your ability to sleep (which could end up hurting your grades if kept unchecked). However, you did also mention that one of your roommates is dating the RA for your apartment complex, you might have to go to someone even higher up and explain the situation to them and tell them why you didn’t feel comfortable speaking to your RA. (Maybe trying getting into contact with your University’s housing department?)
What does have me a bit confused though is that you said you control the bill payments. Are you saying that you’re paying for everything and they’re basically freeloading off of you? Because if that is the case, I think you’re in full right to just contact the university and have your roommates removed from the apartment altogether.
We split the bill but neither of them stepped up to initially set up the payments. I’m fully prepared to kick them out if they think of neglecting paying their part.