<p>OP - Northstarmom gies you some very good advice. Given your families financial situation, I would not apply anywhere ED. Apply to Wesleyan RD along with several financial safeties.</p>
<p>Your parents do not want to discourage you but you and they will eventually face the financial realities. Also, it is not good to break an ED agreement. Sure, it can be done for financial reasons but it does not look good on you when you do - and it does not look good for your school and those who apply from your school after you.</p>
<p>You ask would it be selfish to still apply ED. unfortunately the answer is yes based on the above.</p>
<p>Still definitely apply to Wesleyan RD - along with others where you can obtain good merit aid - and give yourself choices.</p>
<p>Best of luck</p>