Should I transfer because of friend problems?

<p>hi,</p>

<p>I'm a sophomore at a private college and I just realized that I don't think I'm very happy here. I have one great best friend here, but I suddenly don't like any of the friends I made last year. I feel like the only reason I would stay here is because of the one best friend I have. </p>

<p>Lately I can't stop thinking about transferring. Are most people happier after they transfer because of friend problems?</p>

<p>I don't want to make a sudden decision to transfer and then be stuck somewhere with no friends at all.</p>

<p>If someone could give some advice or tell me about their experience that would be great.</p>

<p>Thanks</p>

<p>Hi Mel,
How big is your school? If it's large enough that you don't constantly see the same kids (My school is pretty small, and I know almost everyone in my class, at least by face), you could try to branch out and meet some new people. </p>

<p>Maybe also try and figure out -- if you haven't already -- why the sudden change of heart in your friendships. If you suddenly don't like any of your friends, that could just as easily happen at another college.</p>

<p>I'd say if you like the school as a whole and it has what you want -- minus the friends situation, of course -- stay there. I wouldn't let someone else control my life. If you are unhappy with your friends AND the school, though, then I'd say transfer.</p>

<p>My school is pretty small (4,000). So I definetly recognize people everywhere I go. And I probably would recognize close to everyone in my class.</p>

<p>And I'm working on that whole branching out thing, its just hard because everyone has their little clique set up. I guess if I transferred it would be the same. But maybe there would be more "cliques" that I actually liked.</p>

<p>I think the change in heart with friends had to do with me being so incredibly eager last year to make friends that I was willing to be friends with just about anyone. I just ignored/looked past the things I didn't like about them.</p>

<p>As for the school. I do like it. Its a great school. And maybe I just haven't found exactly where I fit in to it. I just don't want to keep hoping and expecting to one day have a perfect group of friends and lots of fun. And then have four years go by and wish that I hadn't just "tolerated" college.</p>

<p>Thanks for writing !</p>