<p>I'm not really sure what to do. I am currently a freshman at a very large Midwestern university, and while I am at my first choice school, I'm not as happy here as I thought I would be. I am having a hard time figuring out if I don't like the school or if I don't like college. I really love the school itself, but I am not very happy socially. I do have friends, but not a lot of "good" friends. Some of my friends actually annoy me, and I don't really enjoy being with them all of the time. The school seems to be pretty cliquey, and I feel that it's hard to make new friends. I am only involved in the band programs at the university, and while I feel I have made some good friends from that, I still feel pretty lonely. I want to become more involved next year, but I am afraid by that time people won't be open to making new friends....it already feels that way in my classes. I don't go to parties, even though I would like to (even though I don't drink), because none of my good friends do. I feel like the people here are either really nerdy or really stupid drunk Greek people (no offense to anyone....). I partly chose this school because I felt like I would really fit in here, but I feel really lost, like I haven't found my niche. Will this happen over time, or is this a sign that I should leave? I really love the school itself though, and it'd hurt me to leave. I also have no idea where I would transfer to....</p>
<p>Most freshman feel like you do. I'm a freshman at a large Texas school and I feel just like you. Sometimes you just have to tell yourself you're in school for an education. I'm like you...the friends I've made are kinda sucky and annoying. But keep trying..associate with people with similar interests and join/start study groups for classes. The year has gone by fast...just keep working to get an education, everything else will take care of itself.</p>
<p>Same sort of thing with me, but I'm trying to transfer for my junior year. You missed the deadline already, but if you're still not happy next year, get out.</p>
<p>What school?</p>
<p>I would guess on of the big 10 schools. I'm at one as well, and I found that they are really cliquey, and for state schools, these are all high school cliques. I suggest that next year, you try to live somewhere different, and get a new group. You could also possibly consider drinking, because that is part of the whole college "experience." -don't flame me for that. It is true, especially at the big schools. Band probably isn't the best thing to do if you want to get away from the "nerdy" kids. There are in fact kids who are not greek, and not nerds. Give it another year or semester, if it still isn't good, transfer.</p>
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I do have friends, but not a lot of "good" friends. Some of my friends actually annoy me, and I don't really enjoy being with them all of the time.
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Holy crap, that's me exactly.</p>
<p>I want to transfer mainly because of the student body at my school. I love the profs. They're so awesome. :(</p>
<p>Yeah, I am at a Big 10 school. The problem is, I LOVE the school itself, and it'd hurt so bad to transfer. But I feel SO lost sometimes... Soccer, yeah, I agree w/ the drinking thing, I don't mind a drink or two here or there, but some kids are absolutely crazy w/ it. The problem is, I don't really get invited to parties anymore b/c at the beginning of the year I was more against drinking and stuff.... so now I don't know how to show interest..... :-\ My GOOD friends don't really drink ever.... A couple do...</p>
<p>I go to FSU and I felt the same way for a while....it just takes time. You start to find your own place in the school...then it works out alright.</p>
<p>I just feel that the people I hang out with now aren't my type of people......but I don't know how to change that. Some people just don't seem that open to meeting others :-</p>
<p>I think smaller schools can be much more friendly, although all schools are cliquey to some extent. I live not far from a big ten school and I find the cliqueyness is way beyond what I experienced at my college. Big schools have a tendency to do that. And yeah, no offense, but the band isn't the best way to find "not nerdy" friends.</p>
<p>Honestly transferring might not be a bad option. If you want to reinvent yourself and don't love your environment it</p>
<p>...is a great way to change your college experience. It doesn't sound like you are married to your school so a change might be good. If you like the rah-rah fun environment but want a smaller school (and can get in), UNC is an awesome option as a transfer.</p>