You sound like you are in a bit of a crisis yourself and might benefit from some counseling. The stress this is putting on you - and probably on your relationship with your daughter (and spouse if he is in the picture) must be tremendous. I assume there is also a lot of grief associated with realizing that your darling daughter is suffering and you are powerless to help her. In short, you need to take care of yourself so you can be strong and help her find her way. If you are anguished on her behalf, you will not be making good choices for yourself or for her.