Please excuse me if I am reading your original post incorrectly, but are you saying that her year long soulmate relationship with her best friend made her start to question her identity in terms of wondering if she is gay or perhaps transgendered, and if so, because of her Catholic faith, she believes she is damned to hell? Is that also what you believe will happen if she doesn’t regain her former “identity”? I apologize for putting it so bluntly, but if such is the case, she is in a terribly difficult no win situation – one which often can lead students to “give up on life” and become suicidal (especially if they think they are doomed to hell regardless). If I am not way off base in my reading of your original post and this is in fact the situation you are facing, I urge you to reach out to support groups, councilors or faith leaders who can help you accept your daughter’s choices, even if they go against your religion. Others have gone through similar journeys with their LGBT children and it is not easy when your beliefs cry out against your child’s choices, but my understanding of these issues is that if your daughter is gay or transgendered, she can’t change who she is. Please try to be supportive of her search for her identity and be accepting of the outcome. What else can we do as parents but love and support our children for who they are?