<p>Well, the OP’s S’s GF sounds like a wise young woman-chances are she knew even before S asked her that a 9-hour car ride with someone who thinks she’s “stealing” her S wasn’t the best idea. And don’t think she doesn’t sense the discomfort-young people have radar about stuff like that.</p>
<p>For ahnelk-I think you chose wisely. I insisted my BF of 6 months go to my high school graduation because I was “in luuuuv” like your D probably is. We had to scramble to get a ticket since my family was so large, and my parents certainly could have said “no” since I was the oldest and thus the first to graduate HS and it was a Big Deal. But they didn’t say no, and even let him sit with them. Six months later BF and I had broken up. We didn’t even stay in touch. But when I come across those photos I’m reminded of just how much my parents cared for me to let me selfishly insist my BF come along. It’s not HIM I remember fondly, it’s THEM, all the more dear to me since they are both gone. I promise you that your D will feel the same years from now.</p>