<p>Does anyone have any experience with siblings attending the same boarding school? Different boarding schools? How big a deal do you think that it's an issue if siblings attend rival schools? We have twins who are in the process right now, and (as we expected) they have different favorite schools. (D1's list is Deerfield, Andover, Emma Willard, Miss Porter's; D2's list is Choate, Peddie, Andover, Mercersburg.)</p>
<p>YOUR life will be more difficult with children in different schools (different breaks, two Parent weekends to attend, two business offices/billing to deal with, etc.) but it may be worth it when you consider all the angles. Kind of sounds like your twins have very different personalities and maybe are looking forward to separation.</p>
<p>In our extended family, there are twins who both played the same sport, very well, and were quite different in many ways, and very competitive with each other. Their parents made a point of encouraging them to go to separate (rival) schools – in NE, about 90 minutes apart. They both became star athletes at their chosen schools and ended up being recruited by the same university. And by the time they got to college, according to their parents, their relationship had evolved into one much closer and more meaningful than just always trying to best one another.</p>
<p>In the end, it may not be your family that chooses whether the sibs attend the same school. At GMTson’s school, many of his friends have younger sibs who were waitlisted and ultimately never offered admission.</p>
<p>The schools want yield. They will not admit one twin if they think u will not countenance splitting them apart. With twins, u need to be VERY clear to the school that u are OK with the sibs being in different schools; otherwise, u risk rejection.</p>
<p>I know a family with twins at rival schools. Girl got in for 9th grade, boy did not. He reapplied to different schools the following year as a repeat freshman and was accepted. The school calendars are similar enough that the parents can make it work. A little weird that now the kids will graduate in separate years - but I applaud them for treating the kids as individuals.</p>
<p>I guess I gave off the vibe that we were against splitting them up. We’re absolutely not. We’ve made it very clear to them that we want them to choose the schools that they like best, regardless of what the other is doing–and if they happen to end up at the same school, great, and if not, that’s great too. I’ll admit that the strictly logistics/numbers side of me is hoping that they choose the same school or schools near each other. We’re more worried about the logistical side of things (attending parents day, sports games, getting to/from school, etc–and the cost associated with all of the travel) than the “they’re attending different schools” aspect.</p>
<p>I’m really just hoping that we’re not completely insane to be looking at different schools for them. But it sounds like it’s pretty common, so we’ll probably be good. (We’re very new to the boarding school gig, if you can’t tell.)</p>