<p>Is anyone else worried about their siblings once they leave for college? My sister just became a HS freshman when I became a senior. In this time my friends have already told me all of the freshmen gossip about her, which isn't very good. I'm also worried because suddenly she's allowed (by my mom) to watch any movies/tv she wants (when I was a freshman my mom would have been mad at me if I didn't ask her about r-rated movies). I don't really care about the movie thing I just think that it's a sign of things to come where my mom will let my sister have way more freedom than she should (and that I ever had). Maybe I'm just jealous and so what I'm really trying to ask here is do you think that she'll be okay without me? Should I do anything to help or just back off?</p>
<p>I feel kind of like that too (my sis is also a freshman, and she hangs with a group of girls that, well, doesn’t have the best judgment). But my friend, who had a pretty volitle relationship with her older sister, now has a really good relationship. I think distance is good for sibling relationships, honestly, and I hope that once I’m in college, my little sis will finally start listening to me.</p>
<p>I can kind of relate to this. I am the youngest of 4 boys. 2 have already finished college and 1 is currently in his sophomore year of college. My mom definitely let me do a lot more stuff than she did my brothers. I think that goes with the territory of parenting, though. You become more relaxed as the years go on, IMO.</p>
<p>As to the whole sibling relationship thing. My relationships with my brothers have definitely become more “mature” since they went off to college. It seems that we are much more willing to talk to each other and just hang out (not that we didn’t talk to each other or hang out before). We don’t mess around/horseplay/do “boy stuff” anymore since they went away to college. I don’t know if what I said makes sense but all I’m trying to say is that, yes, your relationships with your siblings will change. At least they did for me.</p>
<p>Oh, and I must say that I love being the youngest. Being spoiled rocks!</p>
<p>hi, sorry for kinda stealing your thread, but i had no choice
could anyone please tell me how to post a new thread? im new here, and i dont know how to do it)=</p>
<p>^ Click on ‘New Thread’ under the ‘Featured Discussions’ at the top of the page.</p>
<p>i cant find it)= i feel really dumb-____-</p>
<p>It is a silver button. It is above the entire list of threads. It is on the left side of the page.</p>
<p>sorry, i failed looking for that button.
all i see is a silver “post reply” button.
im convinced something is wrong with my computer. unless of course, something is wrong with me.</p>
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<p>YAAAAAAAAYYY! I FOUND IT! thanks so much baltimoron(=</p>
<p>Now back to the original topic of siblings.</p>
<p>yes i can relate completely… I am almost to the point where I am scared to leave my brother alone. I live in NJ and am going to college in PA (only about 90 min drive, but still).</p>
<p>My brother is 14 years old and is in 8th grade. He has severe ADHD, and has always had trouble making friends and socializing with people his own age. Next year, he is going to the high school that I currently attend, and although I enjoyed high school for the most part, I don’t think that he will be able to get by without a lot of trouble. A lot of the kids are nice and everyone gets along for the most part, but everyone messes around with each other and he doens’t take that too lightly. Also, there are always those few outcasts in high school who don’t socialize with anyone and I feel like that can be him.</p>
<p>He is also extremely self-conscious of his body, and since he takes medication for ADHD he is never hungry. He is 5’3 and weighs about 95 pounds. I took him to the gym with me a few times, and he can barely lift 8 pound dumbbells let alone do machines. It’s also hard to get his diet on track because he won’t eat much.</p>
<p>I am going to have some people i know look out for him and make sure he gets by okay, but that still doesn’t change the fact that I am the person he goes to when he has trouble or needs advice with something. My parents are unusually supportive of him, but that doesn’t change the fact that he will be lacking his big brother who he has come to for everything for the first 14 years of his life. We used to fight a lot, but over the past few years we’ve become really close, and I think that I have started to help him develop good habits and become more confident… I am just scared to even think what he might go through in high school</p>
<p>I used to be worried about the fact that my little brother drinks and parties (he’s 17 now, was 15 when I first found out). Then I went to college and started doing it. Now we drunk call/text each other every weekend.</p>
<p>I don’t have to worry about this becasue I’m an only child.</p>
<p>This has been troubling me for quite some time now. I am the second to oldest of 5 brothers. We do everything together, my older brother leaves for Northeastern in a week and by next year, I will be gone, leaving my three younger brothers home. I make a notable effort to help them and i fear thy will have a harder time dealing with everything without their 2 big brothers there. We wont be the “5 boys” anymore 
it;s so sad to think about.</p>
<p>sack up, they will be fine. probably they want their creepy older brothers who think they are super cool and try to hang out with them all the time when they are skateboarding with their friends in the park to leave for their nerdy schools already so they can drink in peace without you dooshnozzles messing with them at least thats what i gather from this perspective from what you have told us so far maybe you can get some more boys in college and have a five boys party</p>
<p>jw: thats such an intense story. I really hope your brother does alright next year. (If it helps my best guy friend is 6’3" 150) You seem like you have a really close relationship.</p>
<p>Harrishall: I kinda have a double standard when it come to my sister because of her age, the age of her friends and their 9th grade prep school maturity level. I party w/ college people now but if she were to do the same things that I do w/ my 18+ friends w/ her 14 year old friends I would be ****ed… (also she just stole my Hangover movie and left it at a friends house)</p>
<p>Finally, it seems like right now the best way to treat this is to just forget about it. To not think about what she’s gonna do when I’m gone. Why should I worry about what I can’t possibly change?</p>
<p>My brother went to college and my sister went to Florida for school; therefore, I am left alone.</p>
<p>I THINK IT’S GREAT!</p>
<p>I do worry about my dogs. =( I think about it every day.</p>
<p>I worry about my siblings… however, I have somewhat of an alternate situation? I’m the youngest, a girl, with two older brothers. one of my brothers is twice my age, married, and has two little girls, he lives like 10 minutes away and he’s over every weekend etc. unless he’s away on business, in which case my sister 'n law brings my nieces over and what not…</p>
<p>Then, there’s my other older brother who do to financial reasons/not being a citizen (and therefore, not getting any financial aid…) didn’t go away to college, he just got his associated degree from a local college and is currently transferring to another university nearby to get his bachelors… He’s definitely the one I’m worried about. He’s a couple years older than me, however, a lot of things in his life have been out of his control and gone wrong, I guess, and I’ve sort of become his best friend, I’d say. We’re really close, and I feel like hell leaving him behind and moving to NY for college… he’ll be all alone… and I can’t help but feel like it’s so unfair that just because I was born here, I have so many more privileges and opportunities… opportunities he missed out on, not because he was unqualified, but because he was unlucky. </p>
<p>I feel like it’s a common thing for the older sibling to leave the younger one… but not for the younger to leave the older. My parents have been stricter with me because I’m a girl, however, it’s definitely been my brother that has enabled me to hang out with friends and do fun things by covering for me to my parents. I worry about him so much; I feel like my parents have ruined him for the world by being overbearing and over protective to the extent that now my brothers kind of antisocial and sad… </p>
<p>I just hope that me being gone turns out to be something positive and that he redirects his life such that he’s not sad/lonely anymore. =\ idk what to do about the guilt I feel in leaving him though :</p>
<p>thanks s1- appreciate it… I feel like tooday’s freshman in high school feel more pressured than in previous years, especially if they have older siblings. Also, i wouldn’t completely neglect your sister, especially if you think she’s headed in the wrong path. Don’t get me wrong, I like to have some fun too, but it seems like younger kids are getting more and more into **** that they have no idea about. The other day someone sold mushrooms to some freshman who proceeded to eat them before school (lol). I am not suggesting that your sister does mushrooms, just saying that it would be in her best interest if you watched over her a bit.</p>
<p>wisdom- i wouldn’t worry about your older brother too much. It seems like he is on the right track with college and everything, and maybe you going away will help him in the long run because he will become more independent. You’re going to a great school, and i am sure he is proud of you. Good luck!</p>