<p>I’m skipping ahead to also say your friend is an idiot–the flu can get serious, and not only do you have your daughter’s health to consider, it was responsible of you to get her out of there to minimize the risk she’d pass the flu onto others–colleges are densely packed hives of people who don’t eat right and don’t get enough sleep–and illness can travel fast. </p>
<p>Your daughter DID handle it by the way–she knew she was really sick and she got help. Would your friend rather she lay there in the dorm and make the other students responsible for her care? That happened to my D. last year–a girl got the flu and was too sick to care for herself, so she moved into D’s room and slept on the futon and D’s roommate cared for her. I don’t know why she did not get an RA or a rector to help, or to get her to the clinic, but sometimes "handling it yourself’ is dumb. Maturity and independence means knowing when you need help and who is appropriate to ask–and asking a parent to care for you during illness is something even adults do!</p>