<p>i feel so weird that i still have no experience in dating even though i'm already in my senior year....(i'm a girl)</p>
<p>i feel a bit like a failure.</p>
<p>i have some friends (none so serious that we would start dating, sadly), i'd rate myself a 6 out of 10 for goodlookingness (i'm not pretty, but not disgusting, either), i wouldn't say i'm boring ( all my university interviewers loved me, friends like me too), so what went wrong?</p>
<p>i feel abnormal that i never dated anyone....i'm afraid i will never be able to marry/make a family in the future...sighs</p>
<p>Did you know that %50 of guys and %60 of girls graduate from high school without having ever been on a date? (It was on this weird little insert thing in my teen study bible. XD)</p>
<p>Nothing went wrong. Let me make something very clear to you.</p>
<p>Guys in HS think only in terms of looks (MOST OF THEM, I know some of you are different boys. <em>muah</em> to the ones that are, good for you). They don't really think about personality or any of that, because (again, most of them) aren't looking for a potential spouse, they're looking for a date to the prom.</p>
<p>You're not abnormal, and you're certainly not a failure. Allow me to use one of my favorite quotes:</p>
<p>"Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the
tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten
apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.So the apples at the
top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave
enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree."</p>
<p>I chose not to date during high school because no one really interested me. And I'd say that I'm not (and you're not either) weird or abnormal or a failure as a result. I read your post on another thread. Being at the top of your class and normal looking and having a great personality is everything to be proud of! You'll find better pickings in college anyways, when almost everyone around you is as smart and talented as you.<br>
and marriage is overrated. haha. why feel worried about it at 17/18?</p>
<p>idk if that made you feel better or worse, but I don't think you should feel bad about something like this.</p>
<p>Dating is overrated anyway. I have been on one date in my life (not including formal dances) and it felt really akward the whole time. It's more fun to just hang out with a group instead of a one on one date.</p>
<p>Caricature of the difference between society's expectations for boys and girls:</p>
<p>"Girl: Hey...I've never dated anyone...is there something wrong here?</p>
<p>Response: Don't worry, you're just a flower that's too beautiful to be appreciated by all the ******* guys in the world. It's their loss."</p>
<p>"Guy: I've never had a girlfriend...what's up with this?</p>
<p>Response: HEY LOSER, shut up and stop whining and start making your move. If you weren't such a sniveling wiener, girls might give you a chance despite your ugly ass."</p>
<p>This is obviously an exaggeration, but it reflects at least what I've seen in these situations. I'm sure the OP is a great person, I just noticed that girls are comforted and told how wonderful they are and that they can just wait for the right guy, while males are expected to show no feelings, suck it up, and take all the initiative regardless of their personality or level of shyness.</p>
<p>I disagree with the idea the guy would be told to suck it up. Most friends would say</p>
<p>Of course you can't get girls. They're too busy chasing jerks to notice the nice guy but one day when you are rich and they have been knocked up and abandoned by that jerk, you can say no and laugh in their face.</p>